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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 345439" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>What he was doing before- drove on his suspended license, had no other type of license and didn't vote, worked for cash, and kept any other real property in someone else's name. That's all it takes- when sheriff's only go to the address and knock on a front door, it doesn't take a genius to walk out the back door. He dodged jail that way. (I didn't find that stuff out until after I was pregnant or it wouldn't have happened..)</p><p></p><p>But- since I have found now that he is claiming a business, is married to someone else (and I feel certain he's thinking he doesn't need to live the way he used to, as I described above, anymore since his first child is over 18 yo and I never filed for CS before), he might have something more valuable they can use against him. It will all depend on how much these two states pursue it.</p><p></p><p>As far as not being married- the previous law here was that the parents weren't married, one lived out of state, and the child wasn't conceived in this state. Well, if I was seeing someone in Ohio, let's say and I conceived a child with him there, then maybe I'd have to file for CS in OH, I don't know. I assume that was the intent of the law. But in our situation, because I moved here with difficult child when he was born, I couldn't file in the previous state, or this state. OK- I could have filed- but they wouldn't have done anything. I had no intention of filing anyway then for a few different reasons- didn't need the money, didn't want the fight and difficult child going thru it, and didn't want him ending up with equal parental rights when I figured he'd never pay a dime of any CS, court ordered or not. I was worried about what kind of role model he would be for difficult child. Well now since difficult child has already gotten himself into so much trouble and is old enough to think for himself, I figure those things aren't quite so important. He's not a drug addict or physically abusive, to the best of my knowledge, or anything else that probably would/could have a strong impact on a teen difficult child. He's mainly just a dead beat who blames the mother for everything- and I think difficult child is far enough along to realize that isn't true because he knows how I have raised him.</p><p></p><p>Plus, when difficult child said he wanted me to pursue it because if he (difficult child) has to pay for his illegal activity, then his father should have to own up to what he's done and not be able to turn and walk away and forget about it all- I figure difficult child had a point and has a right to have some say-so in this - not a legal right and I'm not obligated to do what difficult child wants about this, but given his difficulty over it and his age, I think I will respect his feelings while making the decision.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 345439, member: 3699"] What he was doing before- drove on his suspended license, had no other type of license and didn't vote, worked for cash, and kept any other real property in someone else's name. That's all it takes- when sheriff's only go to the address and knock on a front door, it doesn't take a genius to walk out the back door. He dodged jail that way. (I didn't find that stuff out until after I was pregnant or it wouldn't have happened..) But- since I have found now that he is claiming a business, is married to someone else (and I feel certain he's thinking he doesn't need to live the way he used to, as I described above, anymore since his first child is over 18 yo and I never filed for CS before), he might have something more valuable they can use against him. It will all depend on how much these two states pursue it. As far as not being married- the previous law here was that the parents weren't married, one lived out of state, and the child wasn't conceived in this state. Well, if I was seeing someone in Ohio, let's say and I conceived a child with him there, then maybe I'd have to file for CS in OH, I don't know. I assume that was the intent of the law. But in our situation, because I moved here with difficult child when he was born, I couldn't file in the previous state, or this state. OK- I could have filed- but they wouldn't have done anything. I had no intention of filing anyway then for a few different reasons- didn't need the money, didn't want the fight and difficult child going thru it, and didn't want him ending up with equal parental rights when I figured he'd never pay a dime of any CS, court ordered or not. I was worried about what kind of role model he would be for difficult child. Well now since difficult child has already gotten himself into so much trouble and is old enough to think for himself, I figure those things aren't quite so important. He's not a drug addict or physically abusive, to the best of my knowledge, or anything else that probably would/could have a strong impact on a teen difficult child. He's mainly just a dead beat who blames the mother for everything- and I think difficult child is far enough along to realize that isn't true because he knows how I have raised him. Plus, when difficult child said he wanted me to pursue it because if he (difficult child) has to pay for his illegal activity, then his father should have to own up to what he's done and not be able to turn and walk away and forget about it all- I figure difficult child had a point and has a right to have some say-so in this - not a legal right and I'm not obligated to do what difficult child wants about this, but given his difficulty over it and his age, I think I will respect his feelings while making the decision. [/QUOTE]
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