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<blockquote data-quote="Struggling" data-source="post: 446561" data-attributes="member: 12417"><p>Thank you to everyone for your comments thus far. It seems as if I have spent the better part of the day in tears and I am extremely appreciative of the support. My SO & I just got off the phone with the DCYF worker again who has been involved with us since the 'possible kidnapping' accusation. Once again, he was extremely supportive and assures us that he is doing everything in his power to assist us with some type of counseling or therapy for my son. </p><p></p><p>My SO has been watching my son while I work and has reached her wits end with what to do next. She feels as if she is a prisoner in our own home and struggles just to get through each day. She is convinced that my son has some deep seeded hatred toward her for entering our lives and becoming part of a nucleous which detracts attention away from him. Part of me believes that also. As for our DCYF contact, he is a wonderful man and has been trying to also secure a big brother mentor for our son. He would like to take the job himself, but is already spread far too thin. </p><p></p><p>I can't seem to stop crying. And I know that will not help the situation at all....not even in front of my son. I love him so very much...and I know that I am repeating myself with that...but even with my background in Human Services & Special Needs...I can't seem to comprehend how we have reached this particular point in time. I've done nothing but love him and now I find myself in the position of disciplinarian and yet his behavior continues to worsen. And as much as I realize that much of his behavior, if not all...could have a direct correlation to his birth mother....I find little comfort in that knowledge.</p><p></p><p>Every bit of this feels like a direct and deliberate kick in the teeth...and I am angry & frustrated and beside myself for lack of answers...yet, my heart wants to do nothing else but to embrace this child in my arms and draw him closer. But I can't. I want to be a good & responsible parent...so though my heart is breaking, I hold him at arms length in the hopes he will soon understand.</p><p></p><p>Please tell me you understand and I'm not the horrible monster I worry I've become.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Struggling, post: 446561, member: 12417"] Thank you to everyone for your comments thus far. It seems as if I have spent the better part of the day in tears and I am extremely appreciative of the support. My SO & I just got off the phone with the DCYF worker again who has been involved with us since the 'possible kidnapping' accusation. Once again, he was extremely supportive and assures us that he is doing everything in his power to assist us with some type of counseling or therapy for my son. My SO has been watching my son while I work and has reached her wits end with what to do next. She feels as if she is a prisoner in our own home and struggles just to get through each day. She is convinced that my son has some deep seeded hatred toward her for entering our lives and becoming part of a nucleous which detracts attention away from him. Part of me believes that also. As for our DCYF contact, he is a wonderful man and has been trying to also secure a big brother mentor for our son. He would like to take the job himself, but is already spread far too thin. I can't seem to stop crying. And I know that will not help the situation at all....not even in front of my son. I love him so very much...and I know that I am repeating myself with that...but even with my background in Human Services & Special Needs...I can't seem to comprehend how we have reached this particular point in time. I've done nothing but love him and now I find myself in the position of disciplinarian and yet his behavior continues to worsen. And as much as I realize that much of his behavior, if not all...could have a direct correlation to his birth mother....I find little comfort in that knowledge. Every bit of this feels like a direct and deliberate kick in the teeth...and I am angry & frustrated and beside myself for lack of answers...yet, my heart wants to do nothing else but to embrace this child in my arms and draw him closer. But I can't. I want to be a good & responsible parent...so though my heart is breaking, I hold him at arms length in the hopes he will soon understand. Please tell me you understand and I'm not the horrible monster I worry I've become. [/QUOTE]
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