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<blockquote data-quote="InsaneCdn" data-source="post: 446566" data-attributes="member: 11791"><p>I can't really comment on why you're not getting access to help - that doesn't make sense to me either. But, we've been there for other reasons... so... here's some ideas for you.</p><p></p><p>Do your own research. Look into various possible diagnoses (diagnosis), and see which ones might fit. You won't be able to do your own medications interventions, but you can try various behavior techniques that work for those diagnosis, and see what happens. It also provides a roadmap of information for when you actually DO get to tdocs and psychiatrists to work with.</p><p></p><p>Start a parent report (see site resources) - it will help you collect and organize all the important info, again in prep for future use.</p><p></p><p>Some ides for research... (others may have more ideas based on what you describe...) on top of MWM's suggestions of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) and Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)...</p><p>- Anxiety disorders</p><p>- obsessive/compulsive disorder</p><p>- depression (this is different in children than in adults, and different in boys than in girls)</p><p>- someone else mentioned bi-polar</p><p></p><p>We found that even having half a clue as to what we were dealing with, made it much easier to gather ourselves together and try again. It isn't that this child is deliberately trying to attack or destroy you and your S/O... the child has problems, and the behavior is a cry for help.</p><p></p><p>To answer your last question...</p><p></p><p></p><p>When we "hit the wall", we (as parents) tend to turn on ourselves. It comes from burnout. Its not because you're becoming a monstor - but you need help, too.</p><p>Suggestion: if you can't get tdocs and psychiatrists for the child right now, can you at least get access to counselling for yourselves? (you and s/o). This is to help you deal with the stress of the whole situation... but the counsellor may also be able to give you some pointers about dealing with the child, and/or may be able to put pressure on "the system" to get more help, faster, for this child. Its not because you're mentally insane... its because you don't want to go there! (been there done that!!!) </p><p></p><p>Hang on. Find a knot somewhere... this place is one knot that lots of us use. There will be answers.</p><p></p><p>{{hugs to all three of you }}</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="InsaneCdn, post: 446566, member: 11791"] I can't really comment on why you're not getting access to help - that doesn't make sense to me either. But, we've been there for other reasons... so... here's some ideas for you. Do your own research. Look into various possible diagnoses (diagnosis), and see which ones might fit. You won't be able to do your own medications interventions, but you can try various behavior techniques that work for those diagnosis, and see what happens. It also provides a roadmap of information for when you actually DO get to tdocs and psychiatrists to work with. Start a parent report (see site resources) - it will help you collect and organize all the important info, again in prep for future use. Some ides for research... (others may have more ideas based on what you describe...) on top of MWM's suggestions of Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS) and Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD)... - Anxiety disorders - obsessive/compulsive disorder - depression (this is different in children than in adults, and different in boys than in girls) - someone else mentioned bi-polar We found that even having half a clue as to what we were dealing with, made it much easier to gather ourselves together and try again. It isn't that this child is deliberately trying to attack or destroy you and your S/O... the child has problems, and the behavior is a cry for help. To answer your last question... When we "hit the wall", we (as parents) tend to turn on ourselves. It comes from burnout. Its not because you're becoming a monstor - but you need help, too. Suggestion: if you can't get tdocs and psychiatrists for the child right now, can you at least get access to counselling for yourselves? (you and s/o). This is to help you deal with the stress of the whole situation... but the counsellor may also be able to give you some pointers about dealing with the child, and/or may be able to put pressure on "the system" to get more help, faster, for this child. Its not because you're mentally insane... its because you don't want to go there! (been there done that!!!) Hang on. Find a knot somewhere... this place is one knot that lots of us use. There will be answers. {{hugs to all three of you }} [/QUOTE]
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