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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 446606" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>But having two people who love him NOW does not wipe out his early years. He was still an infant and toddler who had a chaotic beginning, probably starting in the womb, and he is obviously not responding to that love. That's why I mentioned attachment disorders.</p><p></p><p>Unfortunately, kids who come to us later in age are prone to more and worse problems than those born to us or adopted and given to us very early on. It would be highly unlikely that attachment disorder is not part of the problem, and, if she drank, alcohol is probably a part of it too.</p><p></p><p>This is not your average biological difficult child (and THAT is bad enough). Everyone has heard of failure to thrive syndrome (babies who do not grow or gain weight when they are not held or nurtured enough as infants). Well, attachment disorder IS failure to thrive only on the inside/in the psyche. It requires a very specific type of therapy, if indeed it is part of the problem. Fetal alcohol spectrum, IF this is part of the picture, also requires different parenting AND different expectations.</p><p></p><p>I strongly advice a neuropsychologist evaluation for this child and it would be a huge plus if he was familiar with adopted children because this child is exactly like a child who was adopted at an older age. They have issues that are different from other difficult children, on top of the regular difficult child problems.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 446606, member: 1550"] But having two people who love him NOW does not wipe out his early years. He was still an infant and toddler who had a chaotic beginning, probably starting in the womb, and he is obviously not responding to that love. That's why I mentioned attachment disorders. Unfortunately, kids who come to us later in age are prone to more and worse problems than those born to us or adopted and given to us very early on. It would be highly unlikely that attachment disorder is not part of the problem, and, if she drank, alcohol is probably a part of it too. This is not your average biological difficult child (and THAT is bad enough). Everyone has heard of failure to thrive syndrome (babies who do not grow or gain weight when they are not held or nurtured enough as infants). Well, attachment disorder IS failure to thrive only on the inside/in the psyche. It requires a very specific type of therapy, if indeed it is part of the problem. Fetal alcohol spectrum, IF this is part of the picture, also requires different parenting AND different expectations. I strongly advice a neuropsychologist evaluation for this child and it would be a huge plus if he was familiar with adopted children because this child is exactly like a child who was adopted at an older age. They have issues that are different from other difficult children, on top of the regular difficult child problems. [/QUOTE]
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