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<blockquote data-quote="firehorsewoman" data-source="post: 536743"><p>The situation you describe above is what goes on with my kids as well. difficult child is the one that gets more positive attention than easy child. difficult child gets straight "A's" easy child struggles to earn "B's" and "C's", difficult child had perfect attendance in school this year and won a bike because of it, easy child missed many days due to illness. difficult child is a good athlete and gets praised for that. </p><p></p><p>Still he behaves as if easy child lives in perfect, privileged world with preferential treatment. He teases easy child about her grades. Many of his meltdowns include "easy child has ruined my life" or "easy child never gets in trouble" "easy child never plays with me" etc, etc, etc. The opposite is true. Actually I worry that poor easy child is being groomed to be the perfect enabler....since there are only the two of them and they are only 1 year and 9 mos apart, almost her entire life has been spent trying to make him stop crying, entertaining him, listening to him, etc. She knows no other life. I am really worried about the types of men and relationships she will have in the future as a result of being difficult child's sibling.</p><p></p><p>I remind difficult child that easy child is his best buddy. Like you, I point out the times when easy child is getting reprimanded. It makes no difference. In his mind easy child is just at the top of the list of people that "irritate him and ruin his life." I hate that it is this way.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="firehorsewoman, post: 536743"] The situation you describe above is what goes on with my kids as well. difficult child is the one that gets more positive attention than easy child. difficult child gets straight "A's" easy child struggles to earn "B's" and "C's", difficult child had perfect attendance in school this year and won a bike because of it, easy child missed many days due to illness. difficult child is a good athlete and gets praised for that. Still he behaves as if easy child lives in perfect, privileged world with preferential treatment. He teases easy child about her grades. Many of his meltdowns include "easy child has ruined my life" or "easy child never gets in trouble" "easy child never plays with me" etc, etc, etc. The opposite is true. Actually I worry that poor easy child is being groomed to be the perfect enabler....since there are only the two of them and they are only 1 year and 9 mos apart, almost her entire life has been spent trying to make him stop crying, entertaining him, listening to him, etc. She knows no other life. I am really worried about the types of men and relationships she will have in the future as a result of being difficult child's sibling. I remind difficult child that easy child is his best buddy. Like you, I point out the times when easy child is getting reprimanded. It makes no difference. In his mind easy child is just at the top of the list of people that "irritate him and ruin his life." I hate that it is this way. [/QUOTE]
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