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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 509293" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I remember your difficult child's girlfriend...yikes! My heart went out to you when the calls and FB activities were going on. What a mess.</p><p></p><p>The only valid concern I have is her unacknowledged substance abuse. difficult child#1 says with quiet conviction "she is not an alcoholic". As everyone in the CD family knows I am a Cutty drinker so I know the difference between someone who drinks and someone who has a problem. His girlfriend buys at least three bottles of booze a week for them to share at her place. They also go to the Club at least twice a week where she drinks and supposedly (I hope) difficult child does not drink if he has a vehicle. He drinks once they are "home" for the night. </p><p></p><p>I actually began to wonder how he was seemingly staying sober so often...and then I found out she is a pot or spice smoker. The light bulb went off...again. He does not drink if he's had a blunt. He has not been using weed for a couple of years with very rare exception. I'm unhappy that he is smoking again and concerned that somehow he will again end up in trouble with the law. Yeah, his choices and his consequences but the prospect is sad.</p><p></p><p>She is a difficult child at 33. I know difficult child's attract each other like magnets. on the other hand I had allowed myself to hope that he would hook up with someone we could genuinely enjoy. He tells me "she makes me happy" and I smile and say "only you can make your personal decisions". I'm appropriate on the outside, lol.</p><p>Inside I'm not a happy camper to say the least. Thank heavens I have detached as much as I have. My husband and I want him to be part of our life. Rats! We'll manage to be welcoming no matter how loud she is, no matter what her past is etc. but we wanted it to genuine. Whine. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 509293, member: 35"] I remember your difficult child's girlfriend...yikes! My heart went out to you when the calls and FB activities were going on. What a mess. The only valid concern I have is her unacknowledged substance abuse. difficult child#1 says with quiet conviction "she is not an alcoholic". As everyone in the CD family knows I am a Cutty drinker so I know the difference between someone who drinks and someone who has a problem. His girlfriend buys at least three bottles of booze a week for them to share at her place. They also go to the Club at least twice a week where she drinks and supposedly (I hope) difficult child does not drink if he has a vehicle. He drinks once they are "home" for the night. I actually began to wonder how he was seemingly staying sober so often...and then I found out she is a pot or spice smoker. The light bulb went off...again. He does not drink if he's had a blunt. He has not been using weed for a couple of years with very rare exception. I'm unhappy that he is smoking again and concerned that somehow he will again end up in trouble with the law. Yeah, his choices and his consequences but the prospect is sad. She is a difficult child at 33. I know difficult child's attract each other like magnets. on the other hand I had allowed myself to hope that he would hook up with someone we could genuinely enjoy. He tells me "she makes me happy" and I smile and say "only you can make your personal decisions". I'm appropriate on the outside, lol. Inside I'm not a happy camper to say the least. Thank heavens I have detached as much as I have. My husband and I want him to be part of our life. Rats! We'll manage to be welcoming no matter how loud she is, no matter what her past is etc. but we wanted it to genuine. Whine. DDD [/QUOTE]
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