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leighh
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I am having problems with my 5 yr old. He has been in daycare since he was 15 months old and everthing has been fine up untill the last year or so. He was having trouble in a daycare that we had him in after moving to a new town and I removed him and his brother and put them in a new daycare. I thought it might have been the daycare. Saw somethings I did not approve of. I put them both in another daycare and within a month my 5 yr old was asked to not come back....... He would throw severe temper tantrums and they were just not tolerant of that at all. I chalked it up to just not being the right fit for him. I left my other son there -- he was doing fine. I found another smaller daycare at a church for my 5 yr old. He did beautifuuly there for about 6 months. Now and for the past 3 months or so he is about to be kicked out of this daycare. They are really trying to work with me but I have to go get him early at least once a week because of his behavior. I have taken him to his pediatrican and she agrees with me that he is not ADD/ADHD -- he sits still - he has no problems focusing on one thing. HE only acts out at school. He will not listen to teachers and seems to really freak out when he is put in time out. He has horrible temper tamntrums when he thinks he is not getiing his way. It's not that he is doing anything out of the ordinary behavior wise - it's just when he is corrected and not allowed to continue to do what it was he was doing he FREAKS!!!! He is sent to the office and he kicks at the door to get out. He does not do this to this extent at home. Sure at home he has his moments but he is not out of control like he is at school. He will throw tantrums and we will send him to his room where he will rant and rave and cry and all that goes with it but he eventually calms down. I have tried over and over to talk to him about being a good boy at school and he assures me everyday that he will be and that he wants me to be proud of him........ but in the heat of the moment he loses it and even when I pick him up he will tell me he was good and then his teacher will say the opposite. We have tried every punishment possible -- He stayed in his room every night for almost a week. Nothing seems to work! I have tried rewards, sticker charts --- you name it. He is a good kid with me - he gets along with neighborhood kids - he listens to me and my husband -- sometimes you have to sit and have him look you in the eye -- but he gets it at home.
My pediatrician has recomended a child psychologist but we cannot get in to see her for 2 months - by that time we will be ready to send him to Kindergarden.. I need something I can do NOW!!!
I don't think he has sensory issues -- he might -- he has a few quirks --- he likes his socks pulled all the way up - because he doesn't like them wiggly????? He eats fine - a bit pickey but not so much that he won't eat.
He does cover his ears when he flushes the toilet - but never to any other sound.
I am just at a lose - I hate to keep punishing him everyday when it is clearly not working. How can I get him not only understand he has to be good -- which I think he does --- but ACTUALL put it to practice.
My pediatrician has recomended a child psychologist but we cannot get in to see her for 2 months - by that time we will be ready to send him to Kindergarden.. I need something I can do NOW!!!
I don't think he has sensory issues -- he might -- he has a few quirks --- he likes his socks pulled all the way up - because he doesn't like them wiggly????? He eats fine - a bit pickey but not so much that he won't eat.
He does cover his ears when he flushes the toilet - but never to any other sound.
I am just at a lose - I hate to keep punishing him everyday when it is clearly not working. How can I get him not only understand he has to be good -- which I think he does --- but ACTUALL put it to practice.