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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 408589" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>Since she went in last night it really is too soon to know how long this may be. The facility needs a day or so to observe her to properly diagnose her and come up with a treatment plan.</p><p> </p><p>You can however ask for daily updates and information on the daily schedule and how they are dealing with any behaviors.</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child was admitted for two weeks when he was 11 years old for deep anxiety. He was having serious self harm thoughts that he was fighting. He was unable to fight them himself any longer and some thoughts such as jumping from a 3rd floor balcony at the Mall of America or opening a car door and jumping while I was driving 70 mph on the freeway could have led to death. He was super scared.</p><p> </p><p>While he was hospitalized, he learned so many tools to combat his anxiety. He told me that what he hated most about being at the hospital was that I didn't get to watch him grow up. He could just feel the control he was gaining back.</p><p> </p><p>Your other kids are scared and like almost every other kid, often times fear shows itself as anger. They don't understand. Calmly repeat to them over and over that this is a way of helping her. I am sure that sibling visitations can be added in once the facility feels she is ready to see her siblings again. Ask the facility for a treatment plan that will include interactions with the siblings. Ask if there is someone there that can talk with the siblings now about what is happening to their sister - a family meeting this week.</p><p> </p><p>I love your statement, "I'm not looking for normal thats nothing more than a setting on a washing machine and I'm not looking for perfection because every child is different and complex I'm just looking for manageable ... just to get thru the day without the everyday meltdown." That pretty much sums it up for most all of us with difficult children.</p><p> </p><p>Oh, and when it is time for a day pass, ask for sure what that means. I mistakenly thought it meant I could only take him off grounds during visiting hours and missed out on an entire free day with him because no one told me it was for the entire day! <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> (But then again, maybe I am the only one who would think like that? I heard "PASS" and wasn't listening to "DAY")</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 408589, member: 5096"] Since she went in last night it really is too soon to know how long this may be. The facility needs a day or so to observe her to properly diagnose her and come up with a treatment plan. You can however ask for daily updates and information on the daily schedule and how they are dealing with any behaviors. My difficult child was admitted for two weeks when he was 11 years old for deep anxiety. He was having serious self harm thoughts that he was fighting. He was unable to fight them himself any longer and some thoughts such as jumping from a 3rd floor balcony at the Mall of America or opening a car door and jumping while I was driving 70 mph on the freeway could have led to death. He was super scared. While he was hospitalized, he learned so many tools to combat his anxiety. He told me that what he hated most about being at the hospital was that I didn't get to watch him grow up. He could just feel the control he was gaining back. Your other kids are scared and like almost every other kid, often times fear shows itself as anger. They don't understand. Calmly repeat to them over and over that this is a way of helping her. I am sure that sibling visitations can be added in once the facility feels she is ready to see her siblings again. Ask the facility for a treatment plan that will include interactions with the siblings. Ask if there is someone there that can talk with the siblings now about what is happening to their sister - a family meeting this week. I love your statement, "I'm not looking for normal thats nothing more than a setting on a washing machine and I'm not looking for perfection because every child is different and complex I'm just looking for manageable ... just to get thru the day without the everyday meltdown." That pretty much sums it up for most all of us with difficult children. Oh, and when it is time for a day pass, ask for sure what that means. I mistakenly thought it meant I could only take him off grounds during visiting hours and missed out on an entire free day with him because no one told me it was for the entire day! :( (But then again, maybe I am the only one who would think like that? I heard "PASS" and wasn't listening to "DAY") [/QUOTE]
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