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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 447374" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Count me as another one that thinks it was the right to choice for your family to remove your loved one from living in their home. Accountability in addicts is likely not going to happen until well into sobriety. Protecting your family and also refusing to enable the addict are important steps to guiding one to bottom with love and support. Good job on all of you and your compassion and caring rings true. </p><p></p><p>My sister in law has a prescription drug addiction (opiate medications and sleeping pills). She too has lost so much. Nearly her marriage and children although even without having lost them completely the damage is huge and going to take a long time to repair. Some of the extended family have enabled in various degrees and some of us (myself and my S/O, this is his sister I speak of) put limits on contact and tough loved her with our approach. Ultimately S/O and I had to completely disallow her to be in on our lives to any degree. No visits, calls, emails, contact of any kind. We have however told her that when she's ready to get help and is making positive steps forward in recovery we can work to establish a new type of relationship as we love her very much, support her going into recovery 100% and wish her all of the best. She recently claims to be on doctor supervised methadone but from what we hear, believes that is all that is required to magically get her entire life back where it was. She remains clueless to the damage within the family and her personal relationships, clueless to what it is going to truly take to reestablish her life and relationships. We recently had to tell her congratulations on the methadone however seeing as you are still in denial as to the effect on your life and others and unwilling to work on fixing all that goes with the problems she created, we at this time must continue to refuse contact. Again we said we love her, support her, wished her luck, reminded her when she was in true RECOVERY (different from newfound doctor assisted sobriety) we are open to a slow approach in establishing a healthy new form of a relationship. We also said it won't be like before, it will be a new way of being in her life and must be healthy for us as well as for her. </p><p></p><p>I think your family is doing what is needed at this time for all involved, yourselves and your loved one.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 447374, member: 4264"] Count me as another one that thinks it was the right to choice for your family to remove your loved one from living in their home. Accountability in addicts is likely not going to happen until well into sobriety. Protecting your family and also refusing to enable the addict are important steps to guiding one to bottom with love and support. Good job on all of you and your compassion and caring rings true. My sister in law has a prescription drug addiction (opiate medications and sleeping pills). She too has lost so much. Nearly her marriage and children although even without having lost them completely the damage is huge and going to take a long time to repair. Some of the extended family have enabled in various degrees and some of us (myself and my S/O, this is his sister I speak of) put limits on contact and tough loved her with our approach. Ultimately S/O and I had to completely disallow her to be in on our lives to any degree. No visits, calls, emails, contact of any kind. We have however told her that when she's ready to get help and is making positive steps forward in recovery we can work to establish a new type of relationship as we love her very much, support her going into recovery 100% and wish her all of the best. She recently claims to be on doctor supervised methadone but from what we hear, believes that is all that is required to magically get her entire life back where it was. She remains clueless to the damage within the family and her personal relationships, clueless to what it is going to truly take to reestablish her life and relationships. We recently had to tell her congratulations on the methadone however seeing as you are still in denial as to the effect on your life and others and unwilling to work on fixing all that goes with the problems she created, we at this time must continue to refuse contact. Again we said we love her, support her, wished her luck, reminded her when she was in true RECOVERY (different from newfound doctor assisted sobriety) we are open to a slow approach in establishing a healthy new form of a relationship. We also said it won't be like before, it will be a new way of being in her life and must be healthy for us as well as for her. I think your family is doing what is needed at this time for all involved, yourselves and your loved one. [/QUOTE]
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