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As most of you might remember, difficult child started a new school with newly hired SpEd teacher and 1:1 para. I told you how they kept changing things. Things he could do that he could suddenly no longer do without warning or explanation, change his schedule without telling him until he went to class only to be told he wasn't supposed to be in there anymore, etc. Well, last Tuesday I typed up a schedule of what he was expected to do based on the many conversations SpEd and I have had. That way he at least had something to go by and knew what to expect. It was the first day without me being there at all because he said he wanted to try it. I put in his schedule to call me at a set time so he wouldn't want to call me every 5 minutes only to be told no. Well, at the scheduled time, SpEd told him no because he hadn't done the things that came before. Turns out the 1:1 para asked difficult child to play card games (I'm sure to build rapport with him) so they didn't go to any classes or do any work. I had gone over the schedule with para the night before and asked her to have SpEd call me in the morning so I could explain about the phone call. SpEd never called. Later in the morning, as I'm wondering why difficult child hasn't called yet, I got a call from another parent (friend) who told me difficult child was walking home (20 minutes along a busy highway in the country). I headed over there and found difficult child in the office crying and rocking. SpEd insisted on meeting immediately about difficult child leaving school grounds. Their policy is to call the sheriff. He said difficult child wasn't allowed to call because he hadn't done any work that morning. I informed him of conversation with para and that the phone call was for reassurance and support. SpEd said it was a privilege and difficult child hadn't earned it. UGH. The meeting included principal and superintendant and had a very hostile tone. It was only later that difficult child told me why he hadn't gone to class. That evening, the other parent told me difficult child had been in the back of the squad car when she got there 15 minutes before I did. difficult child didn't tell me because he thought I'd get mad at him.
I sent principal and SpEd an email of the schedule I'd typed up as the principal requested I do. SpEd was instructed by principal to let me know about "changes" to the schedule the SpEd wanted to make. The next day difficult child had an appointment so was out of school. I sent an email letting principal and SpEd what difficult child had told me and that I was going to keep difficult child home Thursday so we could meet with Social Worker to get her input. On Thursday afternoon, I called principal who informed me that SpEd was gone already so I told him that Social Worker would like to meet with all of us. He said he would pass it on to SpEd. No school Friday or Monday. Kept difficult child home today, we did "homeschool", since I had not heard from them yet. As of now (8:30pm), I still have not a word from SpEd or anyone else there. I have no idea if I should send difficult child tomorrow or not since I have no idea what they are planning and I don't want to set difficult child up. difficult child does not do well with unknowns and even I am nervous after the things they have done so far.
Anyone got any ideas or words of wisom? After what he went through last year at the other school, I am feeling even more protective of him.
I sent principal and SpEd an email of the schedule I'd typed up as the principal requested I do. SpEd was instructed by principal to let me know about "changes" to the schedule the SpEd wanted to make. The next day difficult child had an appointment so was out of school. I sent an email letting principal and SpEd what difficult child had told me and that I was going to keep difficult child home Thursday so we could meet with Social Worker to get her input. On Thursday afternoon, I called principal who informed me that SpEd was gone already so I told him that Social Worker would like to meet with all of us. He said he would pass it on to SpEd. No school Friday or Monday. Kept difficult child home today, we did "homeschool", since I had not heard from them yet. As of now (8:30pm), I still have not a word from SpEd or anyone else there. I have no idea if I should send difficult child tomorrow or not since I have no idea what they are planning and I don't want to set difficult child up. difficult child does not do well with unknowns and even I am nervous after the things they have done so far.
Anyone got any ideas or words of wisom? After what he went through last year at the other school, I am feeling even more protective of him.