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<blockquote data-quote="seriously" data-source="post: 446848" data-attributes="member: 11920"><p>Those are not good signs. yes, difficult child's can be tough but that is intimidation and bordering on domestic violence in my opinion.</p><p></p><p>I strongly suggest you call the local women's shelter/domestic violence hotline and ask to talk to someone there. Besides talking to the on-call counselor they may have support groups for couples or for women in your kind of situation.</p><p></p><p>Sounds to me like your husband is playing dumb, trying to manipulate you into being co-dependent. If he persists in putting you in that role I think you are going to have to get out while you can do so safely.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry if I sound reactive and pessimistic. But I have seen a couple of friends/acquaintances go through similar things and they both ended badly with actual violence after the woman spent months/years trying to "make things better" and be understanding.</p><p></p><p>Couples counseling is definitely called for and if he refuses to go or participate then you will have to decide how you want to proceed.</p><p></p><p>I would let the women's shelter counselor guide you on whether/how to bring up the fact that his behavior could be seen as domestic violence/intimidation. It may shock him into changing his behavior. or it might send things in the other direction.</p><p></p><p>Hugs - sorry this is happening to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="seriously, post: 446848, member: 11920"] Those are not good signs. yes, difficult child's can be tough but that is intimidation and bordering on domestic violence in my opinion. I strongly suggest you call the local women's shelter/domestic violence hotline and ask to talk to someone there. Besides talking to the on-call counselor they may have support groups for couples or for women in your kind of situation. Sounds to me like your husband is playing dumb, trying to manipulate you into being co-dependent. If he persists in putting you in that role I think you are going to have to get out while you can do so safely. I'm sorry if I sound reactive and pessimistic. But I have seen a couple of friends/acquaintances go through similar things and they both ended badly with actual violence after the woman spent months/years trying to "make things better" and be understanding. Couples counseling is definitely called for and if he refuses to go or participate then you will have to decide how you want to proceed. I would let the women's shelter counselor guide you on whether/how to bring up the fact that his behavior could be seen as domestic violence/intimidation. It may shock him into changing his behavior. or it might send things in the other direction. Hugs - sorry this is happening to you. [/QUOTE]
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