In Jan Q is 16. I guess if everything else fails and there is no use for a school system he could drop out. I checked it out and with parent permission they can (lol funny thing is my kid would want to stay in school forever). Of course it is not what I want. I'd want him to be able to have transition services until he is 21. But if there is nothing. The advocate called and I think she is so angry she can hardly stand it and it may make them not even try anymore. She talked to the mother of a boy who was in the class before they moved to the new school, he was a child who had to have a room next to the other kids and Q and he sought eachother out when they could, at times meaning they did play nicely but usually meaning they ramped each other. Problem is this guy has committed serious sexual assaults on people and is aware of drugs etc. He is being raised by his sister and her hubby and they are wonderful from what I hear. They moved him for the same reasons they dont want Q there, that there is this new teen mother/baby program and what if they do something to them and the nice new building etc. So, he is in the place where they are suggesting to move Q and she says she hates it there. He has had several prone restraints and there have been no reports sent home to her. First, obvious the two boys shouldn't be in the same place. Second, it shows it is not due to the needs of the student, but instead the wants of the admin that this kid was gone. The only other site is where kids are in their own "office" all of the time. Q would be back to how it was at mid school. They were saying how he is now awake most of the day, well yeah, he is not in a pattern created by leaving him to sit in a chair for hours in a little room by himself. duh. (remember the picture I showed where he was in the room and the aide was just outside sitting in a chair with the door propped open, taken by Q) The advocate said maybe the home program with the small school here would be better and I said, NO , everything in me hated that program and I think to move him there because she is so mad at these people is not fair either. If it turns out they did hire a decent teacher who is staying and they have more kids and know what to do with them....maybe but they had just two small rooms in a whole building. They had no ability to separate out kids and no back up if the teacher was gone, only the ebd teachers. awful! When he went there for only 1.5 hours to use a room with the home bound teacher he had to leave twice because of the chaos in the halls from others and he would jump in the mix....just not the right place. If something has changed I'll look but I think it would be awful. Then she said as much as she hates the program my son did for his social skills, (they worked with the previous boy I mentioned and in two days said they didn't want him, too much for them)...since my boy did well there, she is wondering about asking our district to pay for him to be there. It is very expensive. we paid over 2000 for a summer once weekly class. But he had a one on one aide and though he had moments, they felt he did well and wanted him to attend more classes etc. But if they for one second had any reservation and they would drop him, omg....I would not risk that. They are a private facility so have no obligation to follow the law. They do have a program where they consult with and support schools. Problem is that the current district considers themselves the experts and the advocates experience is that they do not take to suggestions kindly. uggg, everyone has an ego. So, though I'd obviously create a program for Q, the knowledge that they couldn't hold me to the fire for not providing an appropriate education (so stupid since they have not been able to make any progress for years and what he does do well is because of home)...was just a safety net relief. My conversation with her at least lead me to realize I am still in fighting mode. I obviously do want to try to solve things and will stick it out. But as I said, this time, I dont want to feel like I am free falling. I want back up ideas in my head yet hoping I never have to go there. I told the advocate to first lets see if we can make this work. If they make no forward movement then yes, we have to do whatever. She said she doubts they will and I agree but I still have that dumb hope. If she ticks them off too much then I'm afraid they will take it out on us. When she left I did tell them that the advocates opinion is very valuable to me but to remember that I am his mom and I will make the decisions for Quin. I hope they can keep it separate. They have a long history with her and I think too she is very burned out. This year has been hard and she has seen a lot of awful things go on, way beyond what she went through with Q. I think this meeting may have been the straw that broke the camels back for her and I want an appropriate level of force but not over kill. Calgon, take me away.