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Nothing like a little anger to get over being sad....
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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 455820" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>PG yep anger has a way of melting the softness you were feeling. I hate to say this and please know I say it with the utmost concern for you and your well being. Bartending school is not going to help her. An addict is an addict is an addict. It does not matter what their drug of choice is. When an addict stops using they also cannot drink. That was something I was surprised to hear in our parent classes. They also cannot be anywhere near a bar, restaurant that serves alcohol, catered event where they would need a bartender, etc. It will set off all kinds of triggers for them. Even if she does not have a problem with alcohol it is a substance that alters your mind and it will lead to drug use if she is an addict.</p><p></p><p>Of course she isn't going to turn herself in. She is terrified she will have to undergo drug testing and she has no interest in drug classes that try to get her to stop doing something she can't stop right now.</p><p></p><p>I'm sorry she blew you off. My difficult child did that to me many times. The last time I had to pay for a missed doctor appointment I told her I would not make any more appointments for her and it was her responsibility now.</p><p></p><p>Her only hope is to reach bottom and want help. I am praying that happens soon for both of you. Until then you have to take care of yourself and find some way to enjoy your life without chaos.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 455820, member: 59"] PG yep anger has a way of melting the softness you were feeling. I hate to say this and please know I say it with the utmost concern for you and your well being. Bartending school is not going to help her. An addict is an addict is an addict. It does not matter what their drug of choice is. When an addict stops using they also cannot drink. That was something I was surprised to hear in our parent classes. They also cannot be anywhere near a bar, restaurant that serves alcohol, catered event where they would need a bartender, etc. It will set off all kinds of triggers for them. Even if she does not have a problem with alcohol it is a substance that alters your mind and it will lead to drug use if she is an addict. Of course she isn't going to turn herself in. She is terrified she will have to undergo drug testing and she has no interest in drug classes that try to get her to stop doing something she can't stop right now. I'm sorry she blew you off. My difficult child did that to me many times. The last time I had to pay for a missed doctor appointment I told her I would not make any more appointments for her and it was her responsibility now. Her only hope is to reach bottom and want help. I am praying that happens soon for both of you. Until then you have to take care of yourself and find some way to enjoy your life without chaos. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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