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<blockquote data-quote="happymomof2" data-source="post: 123154" data-attributes="member: 4270"><p>Son and I both just got finished with a meltdown. The youth group he belongs to is going to an event tomorrow night. It's called YouthQuake Live. His girlfriend didn't go to church last Wed. night therefore new nothing about it and already made plans to spend the night with a girlfriend. Then today she told him that she made the track team. Now my difficult child should have been happy for her and congratulated her - not sure if he did that or not. But he got so ****** off because this means she will be gone everyday for practice until 6 p.m. He said "I might as well be in jail". That is when I walked out of the room and cried for a while. Went back in and we were able to talk and cry together.</p><p></p><p>My son wants to get involved in extra stuff so bad. His grades aren't good enough right now to get into sports at school - hopefully they will be by the end of the year and he can start trying out for football and other stuff next year. In the mean time I am going up to the gym, it's called P.A.L. and stands for Police Athletic League. I told him I would go tomorrow and ask them if I can get him in there for 20 bucks a month. We really can't even afford that but I want him in something. I don't even know that they will do it for that. Last time he was in it was 40 bucks a month. It's twice a week.</p><p></p><p>This is yet another problem of him being in ESE classes. He has no friends, well he does but not any I want him hanging with around our neighborhood. If he was in regular ed he would have more choices. </p><p></p><p>What's a mom to do? He just told me that he has only one friend in the youth group, besides his girlfriend. He said they all have little clicks going on now, and a lot of them are so heavenly minded they are not much earthly good. O.K. he didn't say it like that but that is what he meant. He admitted that at least 1/2 the kids at his school smoke weed. I wouldn't doubt it. So here lyes the problem. You got the slackers that are into bad stuff or you got the holy rollers that he can't relate to. He is looking for those middle of the ground kids. I know where he is coming from. I feel I am no where near as spiritual as my friends and sometimes I feel "left out" as well. Only thing is he is a kid and wants to fit in - so which would I rather he go with - the spiritual ones of course but I don't think that is going to happen. I am sure he would feel more comfortable with the slackers but that is not where he should be or where I want him. </p><p></p><p>Just pouring my heart out here. He has never been 14 before and I have never been the mom of a 14 year old before. Just doing the best I can.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="happymomof2, post: 123154, member: 4270"] Son and I both just got finished with a meltdown. The youth group he belongs to is going to an event tomorrow night. It's called YouthQuake Live. His girlfriend didn't go to church last Wed. night therefore new nothing about it and already made plans to spend the night with a girlfriend. Then today she told him that she made the track team. Now my difficult child should have been happy for her and congratulated her - not sure if he did that or not. But he got so ****** off because this means she will be gone everyday for practice until 6 p.m. He said "I might as well be in jail". That is when I walked out of the room and cried for a while. Went back in and we were able to talk and cry together. My son wants to get involved in extra stuff so bad. His grades aren't good enough right now to get into sports at school - hopefully they will be by the end of the year and he can start trying out for football and other stuff next year. In the mean time I am going up to the gym, it's called P.A.L. and stands for Police Athletic League. I told him I would go tomorrow and ask them if I can get him in there for 20 bucks a month. We really can't even afford that but I want him in something. I don't even know that they will do it for that. Last time he was in it was 40 bucks a month. It's twice a week. This is yet another problem of him being in ESE classes. He has no friends, well he does but not any I want him hanging with around our neighborhood. If he was in regular ed he would have more choices. What's a mom to do? He just told me that he has only one friend in the youth group, besides his girlfriend. He said they all have little clicks going on now, and a lot of them are so heavenly minded they are not much earthly good. O.K. he didn't say it like that but that is what he meant. He admitted that at least 1/2 the kids at his school smoke weed. I wouldn't doubt it. So here lyes the problem. You got the slackers that are into bad stuff or you got the holy rollers that he can't relate to. He is looking for those middle of the ground kids. I know where he is coming from. I feel I am no where near as spiritual as my friends and sometimes I feel "left out" as well. Only thing is he is a kid and wants to fit in - so which would I rather he go with - the spiritual ones of course but I don't think that is going to happen. I am sure he would feel more comfortable with the slackers but that is not where he should be or where I want him. Just pouring my heart out here. He has never been 14 before and I have never been the mom of a 14 year old before. Just doing the best I can. [/QUOTE]
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