Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
General Discussions
Healthful Living / Natural Treatments
Oedipus Complex
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 519425" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi, I agree with the others. I can understand your concern. children who have special needs that affect behavior but who look "normal" and can say things to cover up their limitations (my son says I dont care, I wanted you to be mad, etc... just so others wont know he has a brain injury--doesn't want to be in special education!)....it is just really easy to judge.</p><p></p><p>I have had people say that my child is the rudest child they have ever met. that he fully well knows what he is doing. Do I go around telling them about the MRI that shows the parts of his brain that are damaged and cut out from the brain mass he suffered when he was age 2??? NO...NOT their business. Do I run around saying.... Make way... child with autism coming through!!! NOPE, again not their business.</p><p></p><p>If having transition objects like shirts and pillow cases... that help him to feel calmer and keep from having even more behavioral difficulties is what he needs... then that is a WIN. Often families have so many issues with kids like this that there have to be priorities set. Calling his dad by his first name (which if he has some kinds of developmental issues may be a form of echolalia where people say what they hear others say... he likely does not hear others call his dad "dad" ) may be really low on the priority list and may be part of a speech and language disorder. </p><p></p><p>I would encourage you, if you do feel the need to be helpful to this family.... to take out the judgement words. Maybe say I have noticed sometimes it can really be a challenge...is there anything I can do to help? Until you have lived a life like this.... from this side, I would really encourage you to come from a place of kindness and encouragement. You took the time to post here so I assume you have a heart that cares. Maybe you can be a blessing to this family???</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 519425, member: 12886"] Hi, I agree with the others. I can understand your concern. children who have special needs that affect behavior but who look "normal" and can say things to cover up their limitations (my son says I dont care, I wanted you to be mad, etc... just so others wont know he has a brain injury--doesn't want to be in special education!)....it is just really easy to judge. I have had people say that my child is the rudest child they have ever met. that he fully well knows what he is doing. Do I go around telling them about the MRI that shows the parts of his brain that are damaged and cut out from the brain mass he suffered when he was age 2??? NO...NOT their business. Do I run around saying.... Make way... child with autism coming through!!! NOPE, again not their business. If having transition objects like shirts and pillow cases... that help him to feel calmer and keep from having even more behavioral difficulties is what he needs... then that is a WIN. Often families have so many issues with kids like this that there have to be priorities set. Calling his dad by his first name (which if he has some kinds of developmental issues may be a form of echolalia where people say what they hear others say... he likely does not hear others call his dad "dad" ) may be really low on the priority list and may be part of a speech and language disorder. I would encourage you, if you do feel the need to be helpful to this family.... to take out the judgement words. Maybe say I have noticed sometimes it can really be a challenge...is there anything I can do to help? Until you have lived a life like this.... from this side, I would really encourage you to come from a place of kindness and encouragement. You took the time to post here so I assume you have a heart that cares. Maybe you can be a blessing to this family??? [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
General Discussions
Healthful Living / Natural Treatments
Oedipus Complex
Top