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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 71280" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Karen, please go back and read what I wrote in your previous thread. Everything he is doing now is proving my analysis correct. he is a selfish git who has had his own way for too long. He also is accusing you (and the worst he can do is dredge up stuff from 24 years ago which is inaccurate anyway) which is a clear sign of his own guilty conscience - "see? I'm only doing what you did to me, all those years ago," which is probably one way he justifies his constant cheating on you. I strongly suspect this is his way of life - it's not sex, she only 'took care" of me - yeah, right. So how many others have "taken care" of him?</p><p></p><p>He has had a lifetime of rationalising as a means to justify doing exactly what he wants to do.</p><p></p><p>You have to choose - can you accept his lifestyle? Or would you prefer nobody, to this bloke who will continue to find someone to 'take care of' him - only next time, he won't admit to it even if you catch him in the act.</p><p></p><p>And of course, it's all YOUR fault for having standards...</p><p></p><p>Tell your father, at least a modified version. Say, "We're having a few problems at the moment, we're talking things through and keeping our distances." No need for details unless you feel it's warranted.</p><p></p><p>And if the creep gets upset because you told your father - his absence and behaviour requires explanation, he's forcing your hand in this so he can later accuse you of making him look bad.</p><p></p><p>You owe him nothing, no apology, no trust. He's broken it all - HE has.</p><p></p><p>I did say before - this, for him, is about sex, it's nothing to do (in his mind) with staying faithful. Simply having sex with someone else is not being unfaithful, in his mind.</p><p></p><p>However, browbeating you into apologising for something which is his fault - THAT definitely qualifies as disrespect and lacking fidelity, in my book. Even by his standards.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 71280, member: 1991"] Karen, please go back and read what I wrote in your previous thread. Everything he is doing now is proving my analysis correct. he is a selfish git who has had his own way for too long. He also is accusing you (and the worst he can do is dredge up stuff from 24 years ago which is inaccurate anyway) which is a clear sign of his own guilty conscience - "see? I'm only doing what you did to me, all those years ago," which is probably one way he justifies his constant cheating on you. I strongly suspect this is his way of life - it's not sex, she only 'took care" of me - yeah, right. So how many others have "taken care" of him? He has had a lifetime of rationalising as a means to justify doing exactly what he wants to do. You have to choose - can you accept his lifestyle? Or would you prefer nobody, to this bloke who will continue to find someone to 'take care of' him - only next time, he won't admit to it even if you catch him in the act. And of course, it's all YOUR fault for having standards... Tell your father, at least a modified version. Say, "We're having a few problems at the moment, we're talking things through and keeping our distances." No need for details unless you feel it's warranted. And if the creep gets upset because you told your father - his absence and behaviour requires explanation, he's forcing your hand in this so he can later accuse you of making him look bad. You owe him nothing, no apology, no trust. He's broken it all - HE has. I did say before - this, for him, is about sex, it's nothing to do (in his mind) with staying faithful. Simply having sex with someone else is not being unfaithful, in his mind. However, browbeating you into apologising for something which is his fault - THAT definitely qualifies as disrespect and lacking fidelity, in my book. Even by his standards. Marg [/QUOTE]
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