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<blockquote data-quote="Big Bad Kitty" data-source="post: 71543" data-attributes="member: 3647"><p>Wendy,</p><p></p><p>I am glad you posted what you did. I was starting to feel like the odd one out. I have started posts probably 5 times on this thread, then not sent them. </p><p></p><p>Karen,</p><p></p><p>I can even go so far as to say that I might even understand why he strayed. Karen, I beg that you do not confuse this with me saying that I think that it is okay that he did. I am saying that I think I get his motive.</p><p></p><p>Since I split with my EX, I have made it my business to figure out how men tick. while every person is different, all men are basically wired the same, and all women are basically wired the same. Marg said something that was like bells going off: Men use love to get sex, and women use sex to get love. End of story! The other truth about Venus and Mars is that Men operate based on logic, women on emotion. (that SO does not mean that they always make logical decisions...)</p><p></p><p>Karen, he knows he is wrong. He is fumbling through his guilt (men often turn the blame on others when they feel guilty. They operate on logic because they cannot HANDLE emotions, guilt being one of them). He is grasping at anything he possibly can to get your attention, good or bad. If it were socially acceptable, he'd stand in front of you and yell "booga booga booga!" But, you deserve the time to work this through. BUT, he's freaking out, can't handle the emotional side of things, is scared to death, and wants it all forgiven and forgotten now.</p><p></p><p>Know this: He did not do this TO you. Cheating is not about you. It is about him. I know that is a hard thing to swallow. But it is true.</p><p></p><p>I pray that you take the time to decide what is best for you and husband. (((((((hugs))))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Big Bad Kitty, post: 71543, member: 3647"] Wendy, I am glad you posted what you did. I was starting to feel like the odd one out. I have started posts probably 5 times on this thread, then not sent them. Karen, I can even go so far as to say that I might even understand why he strayed. Karen, I beg that you do not confuse this with me saying that I think that it is okay that he did. I am saying that I think I get his motive. Since I split with my EX, I have made it my business to figure out how men tick. while every person is different, all men are basically wired the same, and all women are basically wired the same. Marg said something that was like bells going off: Men use love to get sex, and women use sex to get love. End of story! The other truth about Venus and Mars is that Men operate based on logic, women on emotion. (that SO does not mean that they always make logical decisions...) Karen, he knows he is wrong. He is fumbling through his guilt (men often turn the blame on others when they feel guilty. They operate on logic because they cannot HANDLE emotions, guilt being one of them). He is grasping at anything he possibly can to get your attention, good or bad. If it were socially acceptable, he'd stand in front of you and yell "booga booga booga!" But, you deserve the time to work this through. BUT, he's freaking out, can't handle the emotional side of things, is scared to death, and wants it all forgiven and forgotten now. Know this: He did not do this TO you. Cheating is not about you. It is about him. I know that is a hard thing to swallow. But it is true. I pray that you take the time to decide what is best for you and husband. (((((((hugs)))))) [/QUOTE]
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