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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 115035" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p>Trinity - </p><p></p><p>I left out a lot of pieces, there's no way I could fill in all the details leading up to this... But to answer your questions, I'm not sure how it came to pass that he doesn't contribute. Before everything skyrocketed, I was paying down a lot of old debt, and would occassionally ask him to pitch in when I was short. At the same time, he paid for any dinners out, a good portion of our outings (we go camping a lot and he'd pay the camp fees, etc), occassionally some groceries, etc. When we started taking his child support out of his check, that stopped and he basically does good to cover his own expenses. I make more than he does, so it didn't overly bother me to pay the brunt of the bills, but I always knew he had my back. Now, tho, he not only doesn't have my back, he has turned to me several times to cover his. And I'm glad to when I can, but having had no contributions for 6 months, I can't support us all on my income without letting go of a few things, which hasn't happened so far other than personal cutbacks I have made. I don't use the dryer anymore to dry clothes (saves an average of $50 a month), I changed garbage service to pick up once a month instead of weekly (saves $20 a month), I buy all the groceries at a bag-it-yourself, cash only grocery, and have started clipping coupons. I canceled my gym membership, things like that. I could cut out a few more things, but I'm basically down to the few things I do to save my sanity, one of which has been to try to increase contact with friends.</p><p></p><p>I went thru the last 3 months of checks today and figured up where pretty close to everything went. There's not much more "fluff" that I can cut out myself. He's going to have to step up and manage his money better, cause I can't support 5 on my income.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 115035, member: 1848"] Trinity - I left out a lot of pieces, there's no way I could fill in all the details leading up to this... But to answer your questions, I'm not sure how it came to pass that he doesn't contribute. Before everything skyrocketed, I was paying down a lot of old debt, and would occassionally ask him to pitch in when I was short. At the same time, he paid for any dinners out, a good portion of our outings (we go camping a lot and he'd pay the camp fees, etc), occassionally some groceries, etc. When we started taking his child support out of his check, that stopped and he basically does good to cover his own expenses. I make more than he does, so it didn't overly bother me to pay the brunt of the bills, but I always knew he had my back. Now, tho, he not only doesn't have my back, he has turned to me several times to cover his. And I'm glad to when I can, but having had no contributions for 6 months, I can't support us all on my income without letting go of a few things, which hasn't happened so far other than personal cutbacks I have made. I don't use the dryer anymore to dry clothes (saves an average of $50 a month), I changed garbage service to pick up once a month instead of weekly (saves $20 a month), I buy all the groceries at a bag-it-yourself, cash only grocery, and have started clipping coupons. I canceled my gym membership, things like that. I could cut out a few more things, but I'm basically down to the few things I do to save my sanity, one of which has been to try to increase contact with friends. I went thru the last 3 months of checks today and figured up where pretty close to everything went. There's not much more "fluff" that I can cut out myself. He's going to have to step up and manage his money better, cause I can't support 5 on my income. [/QUOTE]
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