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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 393289" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Starbie I know you have my best interest at heart. I never take offense at your responses. You make certain that all dark areas are exposed......and I do appreciate it as I don't always see all those dark areas.</p><p></p><p>I would most definitely seek legal council before I finalized the decision to take the grands. I know it can be done. I know people here have done it. But I've no knowledge about how it is done, so I would cover my fanny and consult a lawyer first. Even just for temporary custody as last thing I or the kids would need is for some emergency to come up, discover some technicality was overlooked which required parental consent........and the parents are no where to be found. Or that like you said they change their minds and suddenly want the kids back after they're done with their fun.</p><p></p><p>If Katie takes the offer I believe I could convince her a legal temporary contract would be in her best interests. </p><p></p><p>Although it would depend on how long she wants to wallow in drama and drag it out..........because my patience is already stretched pretty thin. I came mighty mighty close to viciously ripping her a new one and telling her exactly what I thought of her in my last response, instead of offering to take the kids.........thank god there is a delete button on the computer.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/sigh.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":sigh:" title="sigh :sigh:" data-shortname=":sigh:" /></p><p></p><p>Dealing with her behavior is bad enough, dealing with his has me biting my tongue constantly while in his presense. I will not be able to tolerate it much longer and be able to keep my mouth shut. </p><p></p><p>If I have to be the bad guy, then so be it. But this won't be done at all unless the grands interest are completely protected by law, even if it is on a temporary basis. Otherwise there just isn't any point to it and all it will do in the long run is set those kids up for more heartache and disappointment. By protecting them, I protect myself. So yeah. The lawyer will be a must. </p><p></p><p>Thankfully while playing Santa on top of nana this year I skrimped and pinched and did not have to dip into the emergency emergency stash that even husband can not go near as it is locked tightly in easy child's safe. It ought to be enough for a lawyer consult and to have fanny covering paperwork drawn up. (actually husband does not even know this stash exists) </p><p></p><p>The wild card in this is most definately M. </p><p></p><p>I do prefer to do all or none. While my heart says save those I can........I also know it would be detrimental to Kayla and Alex in the long run to know that while they got a normal life their baby brother got the shaft. And it isn't right for Evan to be stuck with them anymore than it is for Kayla and Alex. I just believe that this is not what Katie has in mind. </p><p></p><p>Maybe a glimmer of xmas luck will shine down upon the grands and cps will be called in and remove the kids. Tragic but one can always hope. </p><p></p><p>While catching up the journal......I realized they've been here 5 wks. Omg has it been a very long 5 wks.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 393289, member: 84"] Starbie I know you have my best interest at heart. I never take offense at your responses. You make certain that all dark areas are exposed......and I do appreciate it as I don't always see all those dark areas. I would most definitely seek legal council before I finalized the decision to take the grands. I know it can be done. I know people here have done it. But I've no knowledge about how it is done, so I would cover my fanny and consult a lawyer first. Even just for temporary custody as last thing I or the kids would need is for some emergency to come up, discover some technicality was overlooked which required parental consent........and the parents are no where to be found. Or that like you said they change their minds and suddenly want the kids back after they're done with their fun. If Katie takes the offer I believe I could convince her a legal temporary contract would be in her best interests. Although it would depend on how long she wants to wallow in drama and drag it out..........because my patience is already stretched pretty thin. I came mighty mighty close to viciously ripping her a new one and telling her exactly what I thought of her in my last response, instead of offering to take the kids.........thank god there is a delete button on the computer.:sigh: Dealing with her behavior is bad enough, dealing with his has me biting my tongue constantly while in his presense. I will not be able to tolerate it much longer and be able to keep my mouth shut. If I have to be the bad guy, then so be it. But this won't be done at all unless the grands interest are completely protected by law, even if it is on a temporary basis. Otherwise there just isn't any point to it and all it will do in the long run is set those kids up for more heartache and disappointment. By protecting them, I protect myself. So yeah. The lawyer will be a must. Thankfully while playing Santa on top of nana this year I skrimped and pinched and did not have to dip into the emergency emergency stash that even husband can not go near as it is locked tightly in easy child's safe. It ought to be enough for a lawyer consult and to have fanny covering paperwork drawn up. (actually husband does not even know this stash exists) The wild card in this is most definately M. I do prefer to do all or none. While my heart says save those I can........I also know it would be detrimental to Kayla and Alex in the long run to know that while they got a normal life their baby brother got the shaft. And it isn't right for Evan to be stuck with them anymore than it is for Kayla and Alex. I just believe that this is not what Katie has in mind. Maybe a glimmer of xmas luck will shine down upon the grands and cps will be called in and remove the kids. Tragic but one can always hope. While catching up the journal......I realized they've been here 5 wks. Omg has it been a very long 5 wks. [/QUOTE]
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