The home therapy is not going to get any results anytime soon, says the therapist. So today I was pushing for a differant approach. One where the dispicable behavor that JUST STARTED is not "learned" to the point of a habit. My teen is all out of sorts because I will not "let him" just run amuck. And it is disgusting to me that as a society there is this apathy to "let them" run amuck. What did I do? I stopped the attempt to have overnight groups at my house. Hello? That was a no brainer. Just like it is a NO BRAINER that be home by curfew is not a mystery. That is why the curfew is there. Also, the idea that because all the teens are doing it makes being unaccountable, what? as predictable as pregnacy, teen auto death, rape getting slipped a micky? I do not want to talk to you. He says. The conselor said no one can make him get help. How is a youth to determine what they need? They have zero experiance. That IS what is so imprtant to have caring adults who are talking to them. Show me a parent who is not "doing it all" by themselves? It is the neglect of adult attention and direction that harms the most. When did AA philosophy replace every form of common scence in people? BEing and addict/alcoholic is a vital part of history. When the water is filthy drink purified alcoholic safe lyquid. Now, generations after the water cleaning can be done with out the intoxicant poison can we behave with sober diferance to what is developementally appropriate? Let him make his own mistakes and suffer the consiquences. Let him pay for his own auto insurance policy and deside how risky he wants to be. Oh, he has not even worked a job so what is the rush with the mistakes? Let him figure out what he can while he has the luxury of study and the safty of parents. Like how to get up and go everyday. What is the point of having the "party" factor involved unsupervised? It is great for dealers and alcohol companies. tow trucks, auto wreckers, mortuaties.