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<blockquote data-quote="gcvmom" data-source="post: 436455" data-attributes="member: 3444"><p>It's funny, when husband and I were first married, he really resisted and resented any attempts by his sibs to manipulate or coerce him into doing what they wanted. He was branded the "black sheep" because he wouldn't meekly go along with whatever scheme his sisters dreamed up to provide for the parents. And he always criticized his sibs for being so smotheringly close to his parents. The sisters would call their mom, not just daily, but multiple times a day. He could not fathom what they would need to talk about so often, or why they would want to share the mundane details of their daily life. </p><p> </p><p>During those years, I was usually the interface between his parents because husband just didn't call them very often (and they complained about that to me).</p><p> </p><p>But after husband's brain surgery and starting the medications that took a big bite out of his depression that had marred our relationship during the first half of our marriage, he began to take a more active role in his relationship with his family. Probably has to do with his better mood and my stepping back after the fiasco of his parents watching our kids while he was in the hospital (mother in law could not handle difficult child 2 who was very unstable at the time, and she resorted to slapping him). Combine these factors with him seeing my dad die, and realizing his parents won't be around forever (they are in their mid- to late-70s) and maybe that's why he's feeling so soft on them.</p><p> </p><p>Doesn't make it right, but it might explain what's going on.</p><p> </p><p>He still doesn't let his sibs order him around, but he really needs to see his parents behavior for what it is. And I will continue to point out the obvious as best I can. I mean, if our KIDS can see that what the parents do is just out of control, how blind can he be? I certainly won't censor them for speaking their mind to their dad <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/Graemlins/rofl.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":rofl:" title="rofl :rofl:" data-shortname=":rofl:" /> Sometimes the truth is best heard out of the mouths of babes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="gcvmom, post: 436455, member: 3444"] It's funny, when husband and I were first married, he really resisted and resented any attempts by his sibs to manipulate or coerce him into doing what they wanted. He was branded the "black sheep" because he wouldn't meekly go along with whatever scheme his sisters dreamed up to provide for the parents. And he always criticized his sibs for being so smotheringly close to his parents. The sisters would call their mom, not just daily, but multiple times a day. He could not fathom what they would need to talk about so often, or why they would want to share the mundane details of their daily life. During those years, I was usually the interface between his parents because husband just didn't call them very often (and they complained about that to me). But after husband's brain surgery and starting the medications that took a big bite out of his depression that had marred our relationship during the first half of our marriage, he began to take a more active role in his relationship with his family. Probably has to do with his better mood and my stepping back after the fiasco of his parents watching our kids while he was in the hospital (mother in law could not handle difficult child 2 who was very unstable at the time, and she resorted to slapping him). Combine these factors with him seeing my dad die, and realizing his parents won't be around forever (they are in their mid- to late-70s) and maybe that's why he's feeling so soft on them. Doesn't make it right, but it might explain what's going on. He still doesn't let his sibs order him around, but he really needs to see his parents behavior for what it is. And I will continue to point out the obvious as best I can. I mean, if our KIDS can see that what the parents do is just out of control, how blind can he be? I certainly won't censor them for speaking their mind to their dad :rofl: Sometimes the truth is best heard out of the mouths of babes. [/QUOTE]
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