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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 222225" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>Certainly bring up the IEP and make it clear - if the IEP had been followed, then none of this would have happened. </p><p></p><p>I am a STRONG believer in not punishing a child for what they cannot control. A difficult child who is known to need certain strategies in place or else they will have exactly this kind of problem, and who is NOT handled with those strategies - as far as I am concerned, the consequences should all be on the school. difficult child did the wrong thing, of course, and needs to be made thoroughly aware; but she was set up for failure and the sort of punishment the law provides is NOT what difficult child needs in order to learn better control.</p><p></p><p>Example: A profoundly autistic child is sensitive to touch and phobic about being touched, it's written in the child's IEP to NOT touch the child unless needed for urgent safety reasons.</p><p>One day a staff member who thinks she knows better walks up to that child and gives him a hug. The boy responds first by going stiff and then by lashing out with fists, teeth, claws, whatever, in a panic to make this person stop touching him. The teacher gets injured. But who is responsible? If the teacher did not know, does this make the child more liable? Of course not. The liability rests with the person who DID know and who had the responsibility of keeping the child safe, of ensuring the IEP is followed and also ensuring that all staff are aware of the rules and will follow them. </p><p>Punishing the child in that case achieves absolutely nothing.</p><p></p><p>The main difference between my example and your daughter, is merely a matter of degree. Your daughter may be more high-functioning, but it WAS a foreseen situation, the school has it in the IEP, the IEP was not followed, the consequences of the IEP not being followed were exactly what was predicted would happen (hence the need for the IEP) and the school staff's subsequent actions escalated what already should not have happened.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 222225, member: 1991"] Certainly bring up the IEP and make it clear - if the IEP had been followed, then none of this would have happened. I am a STRONG believer in not punishing a child for what they cannot control. A difficult child who is known to need certain strategies in place or else they will have exactly this kind of problem, and who is NOT handled with those strategies - as far as I am concerned, the consequences should all be on the school. difficult child did the wrong thing, of course, and needs to be made thoroughly aware; but she was set up for failure and the sort of punishment the law provides is NOT what difficult child needs in order to learn better control. Example: A profoundly autistic child is sensitive to touch and phobic about being touched, it's written in the child's IEP to NOT touch the child unless needed for urgent safety reasons. One day a staff member who thinks she knows better walks up to that child and gives him a hug. The boy responds first by going stiff and then by lashing out with fists, teeth, claws, whatever, in a panic to make this person stop touching him. The teacher gets injured. But who is responsible? If the teacher did not know, does this make the child more liable? Of course not. The liability rests with the person who DID know and who had the responsibility of keeping the child safe, of ensuring the IEP is followed and also ensuring that all staff are aware of the rules and will follow them. Punishing the child in that case achieves absolutely nothing. The main difference between my example and your daughter, is merely a matter of degree. Your daughter may be more high-functioning, but it WAS a foreseen situation, the school has it in the IEP, the IEP was not followed, the consequences of the IEP not being followed were exactly what was predicted would happen (hence the need for the IEP) and the school staff's subsequent actions escalated what already should not have happened. Marg [/QUOTE]
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