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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 146636" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Some part of you has to <em>KNOW<em> that you are not the cause of your sister's outcome. Whatever incident of this sort that you went through is obviously horrible- not just to you, but it does effect the whole family. You are not the blame for that. Obviously, your sister did not blame you or you would not have had the relationship you did.</em></em></p><p><em><em></em></em></p><p><em><em>But, Steely, come on- you have had this death to deal with, on top of difficult child issues, on top of your own <em>internal, personal</em> issues, and now this job situation- and you obviously have a WHOLE lot of your self-value tied to this job (you need to get over that in my humble opinion), and NO ONE could take all that without some help. If your sister called and said she was going through even half of these things, what would you suggest that she do? Now, please, go do it.. You waould have wanted that for your sister because you loved her, right? No, we can't take her place, but we do care for you too and want what is best for you.</em></em></p><p><em><em></em></em></p><p><em><em>Do you think this therapist is helping? If so, can you go more often? If not, can you find another one? If your on medications, it sounds like a discussion about dosage might be a good thing. Would it make you feel better or worse to just go out to dinner with difficult child one night?</em></em></p><p><em><em></em></em></p><p><em><em>I soooo wish I could just lift some of this weight off your shoulders...</em></em></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 146636, member: 3699"] Some part of you has to [I]KNOW[I] that you are not the cause of your sister's outcome. Whatever incident of this sort that you went through is obviously horrible- not just to you, but it does effect the whole family. You are not the blame for that. Obviously, your sister did not blame you or you would not have had the relationship you did. But, Steely, come on- you have had this death to deal with, on top of difficult child issues, on top of your own [I]internal, personal[/I] issues, and now this job situation- and you obviously have a WHOLE lot of your self-value tied to this job (you need to get over that in my humble opinion), and NO ONE could take all that without some help. If your sister called and said she was going through even half of these things, what would you suggest that she do? Now, please, go do it.. You waould have wanted that for your sister because you loved her, right? No, we can't take her place, but we do care for you too and want what is best for you. Do you think this therapist is helping? If so, can you go more often? If not, can you find another one? If your on medications, it sounds like a discussion about dosage might be a good thing. Would it make you feel better or worse to just go out to dinner with difficult child one night? I soooo wish I could just lift some of this weight off your shoulders...[/I][/I] [/QUOTE]
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