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Ok, so I went to the DV shelter today
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<blockquote data-quote="dreamer" data-source="post: 136298" data-attributes="member: 1697"><p>LDM, most of the time, if you can get the benefits, then you also sign up for subsidized houseing.....and then typically you pay one third (or so- not supposed to be more than one third) of your income for your houseing. It was sad for us, becuz we had a house, we had a mortgage, our mortgage was worth more than our house was worth BUT our house mortgage was also CHEAPER than the apartments around here....but becuz we had the house, we could not get help for it. and moving is not cheap- but they had no help for moving expenses...it gets so complicated. </p><p>And yes, we got wrap and respite at first becuz county was shoving me to get nurseing degree so I could take on all our financial responsibility myself....BUT - they offered NO help for transportation, childcare, etc....and yes, when THEY wound up unable to hold up THEIR end of it all---yup- then they wanted me to drop out of school- nevermind everything I had invested in the semester....nevermind I was weeks from graduation. Nevermind that would complicate some of the other things we had in place at that time.</p><p></p><p>ALl those people in those offices ? It is not their life. It is just their job. SUre there are SOME in those jobs that have personal experience living this life, but.a lot more who do not. Plus they cannot always comprehend the true picture, the reality of the day to day life....and they have their rules, criteria for their programs etc and they do not want to figure out how to squeeze anything to fit the criteria mold - if it does not fit, they simply give up and shake their head at you- and go on their break, or clock out for the day and go home to THEIR life. Besides, their desks are full of people who DO fit the mold more easily--so they simply put the harder cases out of mind and do what they do for the persons who they can make fit the programs. (we can see this happening with JJJ right now) </p><p></p><p>My husband has combat PTSD and psychosis and major disasociation with it. SO the standard protocol is to put him in PTSD combat day treatment at VA. OK, fine, BUT he also has emphysema, crumbling spine, and he cannot always GET to day treatment. OK so the other vets who have PHYSICAL illness get to have a bus come get them......OK cool, BUT they cannot accomodate a psychotic person. Hmmm. Plus sometimes at day treatment, they discuss things that rile the guys up- but then, hey the end of the day hits, and gosh now what to do with these combat vets who have just brought out their intense exepriiences and now the clock says time to go home? Guess what? They send those guys home, ANYWAY......but see, PTSD day treatment is The Protocol. Noone is TRACKING how it works out at home etc.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dreamer, post: 136298, member: 1697"] LDM, most of the time, if you can get the benefits, then you also sign up for subsidized houseing.....and then typically you pay one third (or so- not supposed to be more than one third) of your income for your houseing. It was sad for us, becuz we had a house, we had a mortgage, our mortgage was worth more than our house was worth BUT our house mortgage was also CHEAPER than the apartments around here....but becuz we had the house, we could not get help for it. and moving is not cheap- but they had no help for moving expenses...it gets so complicated. And yes, we got wrap and respite at first becuz county was shoving me to get nurseing degree so I could take on all our financial responsibility myself....BUT - they offered NO help for transportation, childcare, etc....and yes, when THEY wound up unable to hold up THEIR end of it all---yup- then they wanted me to drop out of school- nevermind everything I had invested in the semester....nevermind I was weeks from graduation. Nevermind that would complicate some of the other things we had in place at that time. ALl those people in those offices ? It is not their life. It is just their job. SUre there are SOME in those jobs that have personal experience living this life, but.a lot more who do not. Plus they cannot always comprehend the true picture, the reality of the day to day life....and they have their rules, criteria for their programs etc and they do not want to figure out how to squeeze anything to fit the criteria mold - if it does not fit, they simply give up and shake their head at you- and go on their break, or clock out for the day and go home to THEIR life. Besides, their desks are full of people who DO fit the mold more easily--so they simply put the harder cases out of mind and do what they do for the persons who they can make fit the programs. (we can see this happening with JJJ right now) My husband has combat PTSD and psychosis and major disasociation with it. SO the standard protocol is to put him in PTSD combat day treatment at VA. OK, fine, BUT he also has emphysema, crumbling spine, and he cannot always GET to day treatment. OK so the other vets who have PHYSICAL illness get to have a bus come get them......OK cool, BUT they cannot accomodate a psychotic person. Hmmm. Plus sometimes at day treatment, they discuss things that rile the guys up- but then, hey the end of the day hits, and gosh now what to do with these combat vets who have just brought out their intense exepriiences and now the clock says time to go home? Guess what? They send those guys home, ANYWAY......but see, PTSD day treatment is The Protocol. Noone is TRACKING how it works out at home etc. [/QUOTE]
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