Yeah luckily for me he can't keep track of time yet so i changed it to one day and didn't really tell him i just used it when i reminded him before i told him to get off the computer (now remember if you yell, call me names, or try to hurt me you can't play the computer tomorrow) and every time i see him start to get upset i remind him about losing his temper and i made sure to tell him it was ok to get mad but it was not ok to yell, call names, or try to hurt someone for any reason he still stomp off to his room and whined and told me without yelling or calling me names that he didn't think it was fair and i think those are all appropriate ways for a 6 year old to tell you how he feels HE DIDN'T EVEN SLAM THE DOOR!!!! i'm so excited not to be negative but i know this went waaaaaay too easy so i'm just enjoying the calm before the storm lol thanks to everyone for your advice and from now on i'll think before i respond to any posts that might upset me and make sure my anger is justified and not just my emotions which means i probably wont respond at all with all the hormones they have me on for my endometriosis i'm shocked i dont need a bucket to carry around with me my husband hates it just as much as i do we went to a casting crown concert to night and the worship was awesome hopefully it'll get me through the holidays i need the daily stuff just to get me through the day we ate at olive garden and you know what i didn't have to say stop, don't, no, use your fork NOT EVEN ONCE me & husband didn't even talk much we just enjoyed the peace and quiet hope everyone else is having a good weekend