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<blockquote data-quote="eekysign" data-source="post: 285144" data-attributes="member: 6479"><p>I think a lot of it depends on how you've disciplined her in the past - not saying she doesn't deserve it, but from experience of being an older easy child living with a younger difficult child, if my Mom had punished my typical teen-esque behavior by elevating my punishments to <u>the same as the difficult child</u> (stripping my room down as a good example), I think it might have done some serious damage to our relationship....maybe even permanently. At that age, I was definitely learning to develop an <u>adult</u> relationship with my family, and yeah, there was a boatload of sullen, boundry-pushing, angry Eeky wandering around. But I would have been JUSTIFIED in my "my parents are dumb and annoying" carp, if they'd done something that drastic. I dunno. Just my opinion, I guess I worry about treating even somewhat typical teen behavior the same way we treat difficult child behavior..... <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> Wish I knew what the answer was, though. </p><p></p><p>However.....is this a punishment you've used before on her? That would definitely make it easier for her to accept. I guess what I'm saying is that to go from groundings and "you're losing TV for two nights, young lady!" type punishments to stripping her room of everything but a bed might be a bit too much for a 16 yr/old mostly-easy child to take. But if she already KNEW those consequences were a possibility, then hey, go for it. </p><p></p><p>Just my two cents as an erstwhile easy child. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite1" alt=":)" title="Smile :)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="eekysign, post: 285144, member: 6479"] I think a lot of it depends on how you've disciplined her in the past - not saying she doesn't deserve it, but from experience of being an older easy child living with a younger difficult child, if my Mom had punished my typical teen-esque behavior by elevating my punishments to [U]the same as the difficult child[/U] (stripping my room down as a good example), I think it might have done some serious damage to our relationship....maybe even permanently. At that age, I was definitely learning to develop an [U]adult[/U] relationship with my family, and yeah, there was a boatload of sullen, boundry-pushing, angry Eeky wandering around. But I would have been JUSTIFIED in my "my parents are dumb and annoying" carp, if they'd done something that drastic. I dunno. Just my opinion, I guess I worry about treating even somewhat typical teen behavior the same way we treat difficult child behavior..... :( Wish I knew what the answer was, though. However.....is this a punishment you've used before on her? That would definitely make it easier for her to accept. I guess what I'm saying is that to go from groundings and "you're losing TV for two nights, young lady!" type punishments to stripping her room of everything but a bed might be a bit too much for a 16 yr/old mostly-easy child to take. But if she already KNEW those consequences were a possibility, then hey, go for it. Just my two cents as an erstwhile easy child. :) [/QUOTE]
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