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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 350737" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>You made the mistake of getting defensive with this idiot. It's your sister in law your relationship is with, and the kids. Not him. So ignore his hatefulness but when sister in law comes back, let her know that even though you love her and the kids, you won't be put through this again. Not unless your brother apologises when all you were doing was what you were asked to do, nothing more. You put yourself out for them and you get repeatedly kicked for your troubles.</p><p></p><p>Just where did this creep get the idea that the world revolves around him? And where did everybody get the idea tat you will always be available to fix things? For example, your parents appealing to you to not let your brother put them in a retirement home - why can't they fight their own battles? Why ask you? Sure, let you know, but to ask you to stop him? For heaven's sake, I wonder if this guy has had a lifetime of people in his life NOT standing up to him. Even when you rang back to explain - you were not standing up to him. You should have not rung back. Son wants to know when Mom will be back - so get son to ring his parents. You can stand there beside him while he does, to make sure you know the answer too, but it's time to make people take charge of their own responsibilities.</p><p></p><p>It is OK to help people and it can be done, without taking over their responsibilities too. But it takes practice.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 350737, member: 1991"] You made the mistake of getting defensive with this idiot. It's your sister in law your relationship is with, and the kids. Not him. So ignore his hatefulness but when sister in law comes back, let her know that even though you love her and the kids, you won't be put through this again. Not unless your brother apologises when all you were doing was what you were asked to do, nothing more. You put yourself out for them and you get repeatedly kicked for your troubles. Just where did this creep get the idea that the world revolves around him? And where did everybody get the idea tat you will always be available to fix things? For example, your parents appealing to you to not let your brother put them in a retirement home - why can't they fight their own battles? Why ask you? Sure, let you know, but to ask you to stop him? For heaven's sake, I wonder if this guy has had a lifetime of people in his life NOT standing up to him. Even when you rang back to explain - you were not standing up to him. You should have not rung back. Son wants to know when Mom will be back - so get son to ring his parents. You can stand there beside him while he does, to make sure you know the answer too, but it's time to make people take charge of their own responsibilities. It is OK to help people and it can be done, without taking over their responsibilities too. But it takes practice. Marg [/QUOTE]
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