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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 657449" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>Difficult Child called the ex-girlfriend's mother. She did not call him. </p><p>He asked for help ($) "one more time" before he left. (If you help me leave, then I am not your problem.) He says he is going to your home state.</p><p></p><p>First: Do you have a restraining order or feel that you need one?</p><p></p><p>Do you have a strong support system in place, blackgnat? Al-Anon meets weekly just about everywhere. It would be good for you to have that kind of face to face support. No one need know, nor will they ask, anything about you. They are all there to support one another, just as we do here on the site.</p><p></p><p>Write down the words you will say when you speak to him. </p><p></p><p>No money. </p><p>No, you cannot live here. </p><p>I love you too much to watch you self-destruct and there is no way in H*** I am going to help you do that to yourself, ever again.</p><p>I refuse to enable.</p><p>I will not help you when you refuse to help yourself.</p><p>I will not see you until you have turned this thing around.</p><p>I will not take your calls.</p><p></p><p>You cannot come here. </p><p></p><p>You cannot come here.</p><p></p><p>I won't allow it.</p><p></p><p>You are so much stronger now than you were before, blackgnat. You know so much no that you did not know, before. As pasa suggested, take a strong stand right from the beginning. We can say, "I love you." We can say, "I believe in you." And we can say "No."</p><p></p><p>That's all we can say.</p><p></p><p>Stay close to the site, blackgnat.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 657449, member: 17461"] Difficult Child called the ex-girlfriend's mother. She did not call him. He asked for help ($) "one more time" before he left. (If you help me leave, then I am not your problem.) He says he is going to your home state. First: Do you have a restraining order or feel that you need one? Do you have a strong support system in place, blackgnat? Al-Anon meets weekly just about everywhere. It would be good for you to have that kind of face to face support. No one need know, nor will they ask, anything about you. They are all there to support one another, just as we do here on the site. Write down the words you will say when you speak to him. No money. No, you cannot live here. I love you too much to watch you self-destruct and there is no way in H*** I am going to help you do that to yourself, ever again. I refuse to enable. I will not help you when you refuse to help yourself. I will not see you until you have turned this thing around. I will not take your calls. You cannot come here. You cannot come here. I won't allow it. You are so much stronger now than you were before, blackgnat. You know so much no that you did not know, before. As pasa suggested, take a strong stand right from the beginning. We can say, "I love you." We can say, "I believe in you." And we can say "No." That's all we can say. Stay close to the site, blackgnat. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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