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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 657500" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I learned that first by identifying my own emotions as the primary thing I needed to detach from. Not so much to let go of, but to remain present, in my sane mind, with. I had to do that first, before I could speak that word: NO.</p><p></p><p>That was a thing I could do that made all the difference. I could step back just a hairsbreadth and name a feeling: guilt, horror, intense sorrow. (That was a biggie, to name that part of the emotional mix I was overwhelmed by.) I would keep trying to find the anger for my child that everyone said should be there. I would find frustration, a kind of wild, circling desperateness to find a solution. I have only been able to find anger for my children just lately. I think I felt too responsible for them, not for what they had done but for where they were in their lives, to be angry with them.</p><p></p><p>Cedar</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 657500, member: 17461"] I learned that first by identifying my own emotions as the primary thing I needed to detach from. Not so much to let go of, but to remain present, in my sane mind, with. I had to do that first, before I could speak that word: NO. That was a thing I could do that made all the difference. I could step back just a hairsbreadth and name a feeling: guilt, horror, intense sorrow. (That was a biggie, to name that part of the emotional mix I was overwhelmed by.) I would keep trying to find the anger for my child that everyone said should be there. I would find frustration, a kind of wild, circling desperateness to find a solution. I have only been able to find anger for my children just lately. I think I felt too responsible for them, not for what they had done but for where they were in their lives, to be angry with them. Cedar [/QUOTE]
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