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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 657609" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Mental illness, except for personality disorders, does not make anyone mean. A rational, well thought out hurtful comment is deliberate and, regardless of the reason, I don't feel we should put up with it. To me that is an inappropriate way for an adult child to try to hurt us or to try to punish us for not giving them money or for not letting them come home because they are dangerous.</p><p></p><p>Why they say it, in my opinion, doesn't matter. That they would say that to us at all, as much as th ey know we love them, is the issue. Is it ok if we say something horrible to them because we have an underlying issue that has nothing to do with what we say?</p><p></p><p>As one who has spent a lot of time having horrible things said to me by people who are supposed to love me, like my own mother, I just don't put up with it anymore. Took me long enough! I'm a slow learner, I guess <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p></p><p>My daughter acted out of control emotionally when she was using drugs, but she never said anything unkind directed at me. Even drugs don't make you say mean things. </p><p></p><p>My own personal opinion, which is not in any way proven, is that most of the adult children here have some sort of personality disorder, especially if they DON'T do drugs and are acting horrible while pretty much sober.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 657609, member: 1550"] Mental illness, except for personality disorders, does not make anyone mean. A rational, well thought out hurtful comment is deliberate and, regardless of the reason, I don't feel we should put up with it. To me that is an inappropriate way for an adult child to try to hurt us or to try to punish us for not giving them money or for not letting them come home because they are dangerous. Why they say it, in my opinion, doesn't matter. That they would say that to us at all, as much as th ey know we love them, is the issue. Is it ok if we say something horrible to them because we have an underlying issue that has nothing to do with what we say? As one who has spent a lot of time having horrible things said to me by people who are supposed to love me, like my own mother, I just don't put up with it anymore. Took me long enough! I'm a slow learner, I guess ;) My daughter acted out of control emotionally when she was using drugs, but she never said anything unkind directed at me. Even drugs don't make you say mean things. My own personal opinion, which is not in any way proven, is that most of the adult children here have some sort of personality disorder, especially if they DON'T do drugs and are acting horrible while pretty much sober. [/QUOTE]
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