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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 657705" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Blackgnat, this is abuse to even think these thoughts, over and over again.</p><p></p><p>You were traumatized. This is a symptom of PTSD.</p><p></p><p>But the real danger continues. You have recognized that your son is dangerous to you. Do whatever it takes to keep yourself safe. This is no longer a question of parenting. This is a question of continuing to live or not.</p><p></p><p>You have been a victim of crime. You qualify for benefits called Victim Witness, that pay for psychotherapy with competent psychologists. You can access these benefits by going to the District Attorney's office where you live.</p><p></p><p>Seek out a women's refuge or a domestic violence support group. They will help you think through what to do.</p><p></p><p>Please think about going to an Alanon Meeting ASAP, tomorrow if you can.</p><p></p><p>Your son, your abuser, continues to abuse you internalized in your mind.</p><p></p><p>There may have been others before him that abused you, perhaps long ago. You may have come to believe you deserve this. You don't.</p><p></p><p>You are not alone. Many have been in your place. That is how we recognize it.</p><p></p><p>For right now know this: It was not your fault.</p><p></p><p>Let me repeat this: It was not your fault. It is not your fault.</p><p></p><p>Have some tea. Go to bed. Put on some music. Be kind to yourself.</p><p></p><p> Think of a beautiful image in the natural world: The sea, beach, forest, mountains. A field of flowers. You pick. And go there. Your place.</p><p></p><p>Tomorrow you can look on the computer and find an image or two that captures this bliss. Carry it with you. Put it by your bed.</p><p></p><p>Every time your mind returns where you do not need to go, to intrusive, disturbing thoughts return to your special place in your mind. That is your refuge.</p><p></p><p>Most of all, take steps to protect yourself.</p><p></p><p>Write back and let us know how you are and what you are doing.</p><p></p><p>I want to know how you are doing.</p><p></p><p>Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 657705, member: 18958"] Blackgnat, this is abuse to even think these thoughts, over and over again. You were traumatized. This is a symptom of PTSD. But the real danger continues. You have recognized that your son is dangerous to you. Do whatever it takes to keep yourself safe. This is no longer a question of parenting. This is a question of continuing to live or not. You have been a victim of crime. You qualify for benefits called Victim Witness, that pay for psychotherapy with competent psychologists. You can access these benefits by going to the District Attorney's office where you live. Seek out a women's refuge or a domestic violence support group. They will help you think through what to do. Please think about going to an Alanon Meeting ASAP, tomorrow if you can. Your son, your abuser, continues to abuse you internalized in your mind. There may have been others before him that abused you, perhaps long ago. You may have come to believe you deserve this. You don't. You are not alone. Many have been in your place. That is how we recognize it. For right now know this: It was not your fault. Let me repeat this: It was not your fault. It is not your fault. Have some tea. Go to bed. Put on some music. Be kind to yourself. Think of a beautiful image in the natural world: The sea, beach, forest, mountains. A field of flowers. You pick. And go there. Your place. Tomorrow you can look on the computer and find an image or two that captures this bliss. Carry it with you. Put it by your bed. Every time your mind returns where you do not need to go, to intrusive, disturbing thoughts return to your special place in your mind. That is your refuge. Most of all, take steps to protect yourself. Write back and let us know how you are and what you are doing. I want to know how you are doing. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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