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OMG, I am so tired of his twisted sense of reality--long rant
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 381268" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>Just to add a side-note about something my son's psychiatrist said a couple of times that sticks in my mind- it gets to a point where no matter what the diagnosis is, the issue is whether or not the child can learn to live in society according to the rules and do something productive. He continued to say that there are many, many people with MH issues that can do this. Even though it might be harder to teach, the bottom line is that we can't let kids with diagnosis's get by with not living by these rules unless our ultimate goal and expectation is for them to end up institutionalized.</p><p></p><p>Now what he said seemed very extreme at the time. But after further thought, I t got what he was saying. There are many people with BiPolar (BP), Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), etc and they learned how to respect parents, obey the law, etc. This cannot be allowed to be an excuse for them. If one makes it an excuse for them then the only rational next step is to say they can't live in society. If you really believe it's a hindrance but not a definition of the child, then you still expect and enforce that the child has to comply.</p><p></p><p>So while it's obvious that you are trying to teach this in your son, it seems like you are banging your head against the wall, getting upset because you are, but at the same time excusing it because you think he can't do any better or is so hindered by his disability that he doesn't get it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 381268, member: 3699"] Just to add a side-note about something my son's psychiatrist said a couple of times that sticks in my mind- it gets to a point where no matter what the diagnosis is, the issue is whether or not the child can learn to live in society according to the rules and do something productive. He continued to say that there are many, many people with MH issues that can do this. Even though it might be harder to teach, the bottom line is that we can't let kids with diagnosis's get by with not living by these rules unless our ultimate goal and expectation is for them to end up institutionalized. Now what he said seemed very extreme at the time. But after further thought, I t got what he was saying. There are many people with BiPolar (BP), Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), etc and they learned how to respect parents, obey the law, etc. This cannot be allowed to be an excuse for them. If one makes it an excuse for them then the only rational next step is to say they can't live in society. If you really believe it's a hindrance but not a definition of the child, then you still expect and enforce that the child has to comply. So while it's obvious that you are trying to teach this in your son, it seems like you are banging your head against the wall, getting upset because you are, but at the same time excusing it because you think he can't do any better or is so hindered by his disability that he doesn't get it. [/QUOTE]
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