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<blockquote data-quote="Second Time Around" data-source="post: 649168" data-attributes="member: 18739"><p>Hello Confused,</p><p></p><p>Thanks for posting the original diagnoses your son had. It's very difficult to diagnose these kinds of things as kids often have a combination of things or symptoms can seem similar, but have different causes. It sounds like you still aren't where you need to be, so I would suggest that you keep looking at things. We had 3 different pediatric psychiatrists diagnose Difficult Child at different times as well as a neurological evaluation starting at age 5. He was 12 before we had a diagnosis and treatment that worked. So, I would encourage you to keep going. Our Difficult Child had an original diagnosis of ADHD, but he definitely had way more going on that that. He actually has both ADHD and bipolar disorder. The ADHD medications did help him focus in school, but he was constantly irritable and raging, so he no longer takes medications for ADHD.</p><p></p><p>He started neurofeedback once a week 4 months ago and that is helping his ADHD symptoms. He is much calmer and also less anxious and fearful. We'll continue the treatments for at least another 3-4 months as it is a slow process.The therapist did a QEEG and found that his brain was putting out lots of high beta waves. This causes excess energy, excitement, anxiety, and irritability. The neurofeedback is retraining his brain to produce less high beta waves so it's more balanced. We also found out that 60% of the people with ADHD produce too many theta waves, which makes them sleepy and unfocused. The hyperactivity is actually their brain's way of trying to stay awake. The other 40% produce too many high beta waves. Most ADHD medications are stimulants, which increase beta waves, so that's one of the reasons the ADHD medications were making Difficult Child worse.</p><p></p><p>Difficult Child also has some sensory and coordination issues, which have never been treated - he has trouble cutting up his food, his handwriting is almost illegible, he walks and runs awkwardly and is accident-prone. He's also super-sensitive to pain, taste and smells. One of the things we've done is try to eliminate food dyes and junk food from his diet as much as possible. He seems to get especially hyper after eating those. Some parents have found that dietary changes such as eliminating gluten or dairy or trying the Feingold diet have reduced some symptoms as well.</p><p></p><p>Our Difficult Child is very smart in some ways, but doesn't get a lot of things that others would easily understand. Part of it is that he isn't able to understand how others think. He cannot empathize with others or imagine how they might feel differently than he does. He is also very literal, which your son seems to be as well. Your description of his reaction to the movie seems to show very literal thinking. Your son may also just be extremely exhausted from trying to function as everything takes so much more effort than for typical kids. He may be exploding because he's overwhelmed.</p><p></p><p>I would say it's definitely the way he's wired, not a parenting issue. It's true that kids from dysfunctional homes often have behavioral issues, but that doesn't mean that's the reason every child is having these problems. </p><p></p><p>Keep looking at things and trying new things and take care of yourself and the rest of your family as much as possible. Try to get breaks, get away and do something without the kids sometimes. Otherwise, you will get burned out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Second Time Around, post: 649168, member: 18739"] Hello Confused, Thanks for posting the original diagnoses your son had. It's very difficult to diagnose these kinds of things as kids often have a combination of things or symptoms can seem similar, but have different causes. It sounds like you still aren't where you need to be, so I would suggest that you keep looking at things. We had 3 different pediatric psychiatrists diagnose Difficult Child at different times as well as a neurological evaluation starting at age 5. He was 12 before we had a diagnosis and treatment that worked. So, I would encourage you to keep going. Our Difficult Child had an original diagnosis of ADHD, but he definitely had way more going on that that. He actually has both ADHD and bipolar disorder. The ADHD medications did help him focus in school, but he was constantly irritable and raging, so he no longer takes medications for ADHD. He started neurofeedback once a week 4 months ago and that is helping his ADHD symptoms. He is much calmer and also less anxious and fearful. We'll continue the treatments for at least another 3-4 months as it is a slow process.The therapist did a QEEG and found that his brain was putting out lots of high beta waves. This causes excess energy, excitement, anxiety, and irritability. The neurofeedback is retraining his brain to produce less high beta waves so it's more balanced. We also found out that 60% of the people with ADHD produce too many theta waves, which makes them sleepy and unfocused. The hyperactivity is actually their brain's way of trying to stay awake. The other 40% produce too many high beta waves. Most ADHD medications are stimulants, which increase beta waves, so that's one of the reasons the ADHD medications were making Difficult Child worse. Difficult Child also has some sensory and coordination issues, which have never been treated - he has trouble cutting up his food, his handwriting is almost illegible, he walks and runs awkwardly and is accident-prone. He's also super-sensitive to pain, taste and smells. One of the things we've done is try to eliminate food dyes and junk food from his diet as much as possible. He seems to get especially hyper after eating those. Some parents have found that dietary changes such as eliminating gluten or dairy or trying the Feingold diet have reduced some symptoms as well. Our Difficult Child is very smart in some ways, but doesn't get a lot of things that others would easily understand. Part of it is that he isn't able to understand how others think. He cannot empathize with others or imagine how they might feel differently than he does. He is also very literal, which your son seems to be as well. Your description of his reaction to the movie seems to show very literal thinking. Your son may also just be extremely exhausted from trying to function as everything takes so much more effort than for typical kids. He may be exploding because he's overwhelmed. I would say it's definitely the way he's wired, not a parenting issue. It's true that kids from dysfunctional homes often have behavioral issues, but that doesn't mean that's the reason every child is having these problems. Keep looking at things and trying new things and take care of yourself and the rest of your family as much as possible. Try to get breaks, get away and do something without the kids sometimes. Otherwise, you will get burned out. [/QUOTE]
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