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<blockquote data-quote="WearyMom18" data-source="post: 654694" data-attributes="member: 18856"><p>I don't personally want to meddle in the activities or process of the law in my daughter's case but I do mirror the worry that my husband has that she won't be held accountable for her actions effectively and that she will remain on the street or whomever she stays with to continue using. As you have all mentioned, we are caring parents that wants safety for our child and I think the desire for jail time is in line with that but I also want her to be arrested for the warrants she has on her own - independent of anything we could do to make it happen sooner. Ideally, she would get arrested while in a vehicle that gets pulled over or being caught doing something illegal, without us involved at all - this would be the most 'therapeutic' for her, if that makes sense. Direct consequences of her actions - independently.</p><p></p><p>I know she says she wants to come home but then I never heard from her again after she said that on saturday - nothing at all yesterday and nothing so far this morning - which tells me she got whatever she was needing which was probably money for drugs and now she's okay again - doesn't need mom and dad. We are feeling exhausted and frankly, fed up, with this cycle which is why we want her locked up as soon as possible - so she can't just do whatever she wants, even if it's to prevent her from calling 8 or 10 times a day begging us. I think it's our fatigue with the whole thing that has us sometimes feeling desperate for it to stop - and that's when we think of how we could get her arrested much more quickly than it might happen on its own - to ease our struggle.</p><p></p><p>I know that is probably selfish but it's the truth.</p><p></p><p>I block numbers until I am blue in the face and she always finds a way to call or text again - it's like she is bound and determined to drive me crazy! She refuses to acknowledge anyone's feelings and needs but her own which I know is the addiction most likely and to limit availability to her is tough when she is such a resourceful girl!</p><p></p><p>All I can do is weather each day, she is going to do what she's going to do to try and wear me down, give her money or let her come home and I will just keep repeating the same answers over and over again. It's the only way - and hopefully she will get to jail sooner than later. Lord knows she and I both need it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WearyMom18, post: 654694, member: 18856"] I don't personally want to meddle in the activities or process of the law in my daughter's case but I do mirror the worry that my husband has that she won't be held accountable for her actions effectively and that she will remain on the street or whomever she stays with to continue using. As you have all mentioned, we are caring parents that wants safety for our child and I think the desire for jail time is in line with that but I also want her to be arrested for the warrants she has on her own - independent of anything we could do to make it happen sooner. Ideally, she would get arrested while in a vehicle that gets pulled over or being caught doing something illegal, without us involved at all - this would be the most 'therapeutic' for her, if that makes sense. Direct consequences of her actions - independently. I know she says she wants to come home but then I never heard from her again after she said that on saturday - nothing at all yesterday and nothing so far this morning - which tells me she got whatever she was needing which was probably money for drugs and now she's okay again - doesn't need mom and dad. We are feeling exhausted and frankly, fed up, with this cycle which is why we want her locked up as soon as possible - so she can't just do whatever she wants, even if it's to prevent her from calling 8 or 10 times a day begging us. I think it's our fatigue with the whole thing that has us sometimes feeling desperate for it to stop - and that's when we think of how we could get her arrested much more quickly than it might happen on its own - to ease our struggle. I know that is probably selfish but it's the truth. I block numbers until I am blue in the face and she always finds a way to call or text again - it's like she is bound and determined to drive me crazy! She refuses to acknowledge anyone's feelings and needs but her own which I know is the addiction most likely and to limit availability to her is tough when she is such a resourceful girl! All I can do is weather each day, she is going to do what she's going to do to try and wear me down, give her money or let her come home and I will just keep repeating the same answers over and over again. It's the only way - and hopefully she will get to jail sooner than later. Lord knows she and I both need it. [/QUOTE]
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