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One of those Neverending Irrational Conversations with a difficult child......
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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 543484" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>TeDo - Thank you for sharing your experience with your difficult child. My difficult child had some symptoms when he was younger but nothing significant enough for me to consider Aspergers (at least I didn't think so - was probably wrong). But when he got the diagnosis of Tourette's and ADHD I figured that was where the overlapping symptoms came from. </p><p></p><p>There is a big difference between our difficult child's in that my difficult child's friends are so very important to him. He is very emotionally invested in his friends and spends huge amounts of time texting, talking on the phone and FBing his friends (as well as visiting). This is probably just a different form of Aspieness. He does have a couple of different groups of friends that he hangs out with and flits between them. </p><p></p><p>He was upset the other day because his friends said he is the "***** of their group" and he didn't want them to think of him like that. But he also didn't want to change his behaviour to change his reputation. He just thinks they should change the way they think. This is an example of the self indulgent (I want to do whatever I want) attitude that he doesn't think needs to change. </p><p></p><p>I used to be able to check his cell phone, computer and FB. He has changed all of his passwords and won't allow me access. If I try to take his computer away he goes ballistic because it is 'his property' and I don't have any right to it. I can take his cell phone because I pay the bill and he grasps that. And he 'owns' his FB account too so I shouldn't have any right to check that either. Very aspie thinking, I think. </p><p></p><p>He also seems to think he is my equal. When I told him we were going to remove access to the wifi he informed me that I should rethink that because he figured that our business would go bankrupt if there wasn't internet access available in our home. Then proceeded to try and tell me how to run my company. Off on another tangent and odd. Another thing he did the other night was trying to analyze what would make me happy - doing things for him or not doing things for him. He figured that I'm unhappy both ways and so there was a problem there. Quite obviously thinking that my happiness revolved around him. I tried to explain to him that I choose to be happy and that doing things or not doing things for him had nothing to do with my happiness. Just didn't get it and kept carrying on and on, talking a mile a minute about it. Frustrating to say the least.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 543484, member: 14356"] TeDo - Thank you for sharing your experience with your difficult child. My difficult child had some symptoms when he was younger but nothing significant enough for me to consider Aspergers (at least I didn't think so - was probably wrong). But when he got the diagnosis of Tourette's and ADHD I figured that was where the overlapping symptoms came from. There is a big difference between our difficult child's in that my difficult child's friends are so very important to him. He is very emotionally invested in his friends and spends huge amounts of time texting, talking on the phone and FBing his friends (as well as visiting). This is probably just a different form of Aspieness. He does have a couple of different groups of friends that he hangs out with and flits between them. He was upset the other day because his friends said he is the "***** of their group" and he didn't want them to think of him like that. But he also didn't want to change his behaviour to change his reputation. He just thinks they should change the way they think. This is an example of the self indulgent (I want to do whatever I want) attitude that he doesn't think needs to change. I used to be able to check his cell phone, computer and FB. He has changed all of his passwords and won't allow me access. If I try to take his computer away he goes ballistic because it is 'his property' and I don't have any right to it. I can take his cell phone because I pay the bill and he grasps that. And he 'owns' his FB account too so I shouldn't have any right to check that either. Very aspie thinking, I think. He also seems to think he is my equal. When I told him we were going to remove access to the wifi he informed me that I should rethink that because he figured that our business would go bankrupt if there wasn't internet access available in our home. Then proceeded to try and tell me how to run my company. Off on another tangent and odd. Another thing he did the other night was trying to analyze what would make me happy - doing things for him or not doing things for him. He figured that I'm unhappy both ways and so there was a problem there. Quite obviously thinking that my happiness revolved around him. I tried to explain to him that I choose to be happy and that doing things or not doing things for him had nothing to do with my happiness. Just didn't get it and kept carrying on and on, talking a mile a minute about it. Frustrating to say the least. [/QUOTE]
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