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Frazzledmom
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Let's see, on Christmas he entertained us by informing us that he would be moving out and becoming emancipated. Today it was..."if you just let me move out". It dawned on me that I think he is waiting for me to HELP him find a way not to live here! UGH!!
It started when he asked to go to the movies. husband said that he could go but he, easy child and easy child's friend would also be going - didn't make sense to not go together. difficult child threatened once again to run away/move out...
I came back downstairs and said, "I love you but don't want you to move out so I am not going to help you. I am DONE worrying about you running away. I don't want you to do it but if you're going to then you need to make a plan because I'm done."
Seems like a small thing I know but I've never really said anything like that before. It's always been this unconditional love/empathy/acceptance which I'm now figuring out probably wasnt' the best. I need more confidence as a mom that's for sure.
On another note, I know there is an article somewhere on detachment? Can someone give that to me. It's a skill I'll be needing. Thanks. -Lynn
It started when he asked to go to the movies. husband said that he could go but he, easy child and easy child's friend would also be going - didn't make sense to not go together. difficult child threatened once again to run away/move out...
I came back downstairs and said, "I love you but don't want you to move out so I am not going to help you. I am DONE worrying about you running away. I don't want you to do it but if you're going to then you need to make a plan because I'm done."
Seems like a small thing I know but I've never really said anything like that before. It's always been this unconditional love/empathy/acceptance which I'm now figuring out probably wasnt' the best. I need more confidence as a mom that's for sure.
On another note, I know there is an article somewhere on detachment? Can someone give that to me. It's a skill I'll be needing. Thanks. -Lynn