I was going to post last night how proud I was of our difficult child. We had a rough weekend regarding her failing grades and the schoolwork that needed to be completed. We removed most of her privileges until the work was done...cell phone, internet, hanging out with friends. Anyhow, she turned in a bunch of work on Monday and I received a call from the teacher stating that she was now caught up and getting a B in the class. Yippee!! I took her out to dinner with 3 of her friends to celebrate. We had a lovely meal with lots of laughter. Yay, progress. This morning I took her to a volunteer thing. It was a cigarette litter scan...you put gloves on, pick up & count cigarrette butts for an environmental thing. Anyhow, I thought it would be a great opportunity for us to talk about smoking (something she's been doing on the sly) and for me to just let her know that we care about her and don't want her getting hooked, etc. Had a nice morning. She received lots of praise from the coordinator. It was all good. Dropped her off at school, took my other son to lunch and on our way back...guess who I see walking down the street with a boy???? She left school grounds with him. I couldn't get to her street and by the time I circled round and backtracked...they were gone. Went to the school and spent 3 hours with the resource officer and the administrator...interviewing her friends, etc. We ended up tracking her down. She is now on a 3 day suspension for leaving school. We again removed her privileges...and she bolted from our house when she realized I wouldn't let her use the house phone, too. She went to a trusted friend's house. The mom is a mental health nurse and she has been very helpful with keeping our child there and safe. Anyhow, I let our difficult child cool off there. Came back home to check difficult child's IM activity...and discovered this boy is actually 18 years old!! So then I got mad because I don't know what's going on between them but I do know an 18 yo shouldn't be involved with a 13 yo! I called the police but they said the law is kind of gray. I can't really press charges unless I can prove he coerced her to leave the school. If she just left on her own desire and met him, it's not illegal. Seriously??? He's 18, an adult according to the law. I didn't give him permission to hang out with her when she should be in school. arg! So now we are contemplating pulling our difficult child out of school and shipping her to her grandmother in another state for a short time period, probably a week. Three reasons 1) to know that she'll be safe, 2) to give us a chance to prepare for full implementation of the program we are following before the big 'camp consequence' camping weekend that is coming up soon and 3) I need respite! Every time she bolts, I have to stop what I'm doing and focus 110% of my energy on finding her. It's exhausting.