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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 201328" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Does the counseling address the sexual abuse? Are all the kids in counseling for abuse? Is SO? Nothing is going to change if that issue isn't addressed with everybody. IF I recall the family is rife full of problems. It seems that this kid is the scapegoat for the entire dysfunctional family.</p><p>I'm really shocked you haven't left yet...lol. Seriously! If this is the only improvement going on, I think the future is probably very grim. And do you know what? Most kids tell stepfathers (and you are not even THAT) that "you are not my father so you can't tell me what to do." My kids told that to my hub so we decided, rather than fighting it, that he ISN'T the father and that me and their dad would deal with disciplining the kids. It worked out great. You are NOT the father. You are not even their stepfather. You are not much older than her oldest child. I would stay out of their discipline. </p><p>I hope you are not physical with this or any of the children. They are not yours and you could get sacked with child abuse charges. Even if you aren't hitting her/spanking her there is a good chance CPS will believe that you are and you could see jail time. This child may advance to saying you are sexually abusing her. Then it will be a mess; they tend to take this allegation VERY seriously and live-ins are big offenders (not all, but enough that CPS takes notice). Sorry to be negative, but I've seen this is homes where kids were sexually abused. It tears everyone up.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 201328, member: 1550"] Does the counseling address the sexual abuse? Are all the kids in counseling for abuse? Is SO? Nothing is going to change if that issue isn't addressed with everybody. IF I recall the family is rife full of problems. It seems that this kid is the scapegoat for the entire dysfunctional family. I'm really shocked you haven't left yet...lol. Seriously! If this is the only improvement going on, I think the future is probably very grim. And do you know what? Most kids tell stepfathers (and you are not even THAT) that "you are not my father so you can't tell me what to do." My kids told that to my hub so we decided, rather than fighting it, that he ISN'T the father and that me and their dad would deal with disciplining the kids. It worked out great. You are NOT the father. You are not even their stepfather. You are not much older than her oldest child. I would stay out of their discipline. I hope you are not physical with this or any of the children. They are not yours and you could get sacked with child abuse charges. Even if you aren't hitting her/spanking her there is a good chance CPS will believe that you are and you could see jail time. This child may advance to saying you are sexually abusing her. Then it will be a mess; they tend to take this allegation VERY seriously and live-ins are big offenders (not all, but enough that CPS takes notice). Sorry to be negative, but I've seen this is homes where kids were sexually abused. It tears everyone up. [/QUOTE]
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