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<blockquote data-quote="toughlovin" data-source="post: 415678"><p>I think a lot depends. With my difficult child son I did not let girls sleep over in his room or for him to be in the room with the door closed... I knew they were having sex but I didn't want to encourage it and I felt uncomfortable having it right under my nose. As he got older I stopped worrying about if he was with her here alone and so yeah they probably did have sex then. Part of my issue really was my younger easy child daughter.... I didn't want her feeling like it was ok because at her age it is not.... and since she right thinks she is more mature than her bro I didn't want her to get that message.</p><p></p><p>Now we are in a different situation. He is now not living here... if and when he came to visit with a girlfriend I would not object to them sleeping together here. Partly that is because he is older and partly because he would be visiting and partly because I think it will be awhile before that even happens.</p><p></p><p>Don't know how I will feel when my daughter gets a serious boyfriend. I suspect she will tell me when she is at that point and we will talk about it because she is very open with me. I do notice that on many things I am much more relaxed. Like she was invited to a friends after school yesterday. If that had been my son at the same age I would have insisted on making sure the parents were home.... in fact when he was in 9th grade that stand on my part made him absolutely furious. Well I kind of understood yesterday because I didn't make that call for my daughter. I really wasn't worried about it with her..... and that is what he could never understand. I trust her AND she has never given me reason not to. He gave me reasons not to trust him constantly so I didn't then and I still don't even though I think (but don't know because he still hasn't gotten in touch) he is doing better.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="toughlovin, post: 415678"] I think a lot depends. With my difficult child son I did not let girls sleep over in his room or for him to be in the room with the door closed... I knew they were having sex but I didn't want to encourage it and I felt uncomfortable having it right under my nose. As he got older I stopped worrying about if he was with her here alone and so yeah they probably did have sex then. Part of my issue really was my younger easy child daughter.... I didn't want her feeling like it was ok because at her age it is not.... and since she right thinks she is more mature than her bro I didn't want her to get that message. Now we are in a different situation. He is now not living here... if and when he came to visit with a girlfriend I would not object to them sleeping together here. Partly that is because he is older and partly because he would be visiting and partly because I think it will be awhile before that even happens. Don't know how I will feel when my daughter gets a serious boyfriend. I suspect she will tell me when she is at that point and we will talk about it because she is very open with me. I do notice that on many things I am much more relaxed. Like she was invited to a friends after school yesterday. If that had been my son at the same age I would have insisted on making sure the parents were home.... in fact when he was in 9th grade that stand on my part made him absolutely furious. Well I kind of understood yesterday because I didn't make that call for my daughter. I really wasn't worried about it with her..... and that is what he could never understand. I trust her AND she has never given me reason not to. He gave me reasons not to trust him constantly so I didn't then and I still don't even though I think (but don't know because he still hasn't gotten in touch) he is doing better. [/QUOTE]
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