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<blockquote data-quote="WhymeMom?" data-source="post: 41924" data-attributes="member: 53"><p>Playing amateur psychiatric. it sounds to me like your husband doesn't know how to relate to women...lost a relationship comparison when his mother left. Sounds like there were no other females around in his teen/preteen years. He most likely developed relationships with males by staying with them and perhaps learned a little trust after father was gone. He can relate to males, but not females. Did he ever have a female friend he talked about? (Not thinking prior girlfriends, but mother of friends he was staying with, etc.) Never having a mother (in my opinion) can cause big gaps in relationship forming. Since you can't go back and give him a mother, it may be up to you to patiently lead him into a parental role. You will have to tell him how to form a fatherly relationship rather than a "buddy" one. It is a common fault in parenting, that he wants to be thought of as a friend rather than an authoritarian parent. You will have to bring him along as a husband also. Sounds like a big job, but not impossible. These are just my ramblings, but hope you can take the time to sit down and express both (yours, his) feelings to each other and find some middle ground.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="WhymeMom?, post: 41924, member: 53"] Playing amateur psychiatric. it sounds to me like your husband doesn't know how to relate to women...lost a relationship comparison when his mother left. Sounds like there were no other females around in his teen/preteen years. He most likely developed relationships with males by staying with them and perhaps learned a little trust after father was gone. He can relate to males, but not females. Did he ever have a female friend he talked about? (Not thinking prior girlfriends, but mother of friends he was staying with, etc.) Never having a mother (in my opinion) can cause big gaps in relationship forming. Since you can't go back and give him a mother, it may be up to you to patiently lead him into a parental role. You will have to tell him how to form a fatherly relationship rather than a "buddy" one. It is a common fault in parenting, that he wants to be thought of as a friend rather than an authoritarian parent. You will have to bring him along as a husband also. Sounds like a big job, but not impossible. These are just my ramblings, but hope you can take the time to sit down and express both (yours, his) feelings to each other and find some middle ground. [/QUOTE]
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