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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 330290" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>K--</p><p> </p><p>My worry with sharing all the family "issues" with difficult child is that he might use it as an excuse for his own behaviors. As in well, I can't help it because X runs in my family....or I get this from my grandfather, so it's just the way I am.</p><p> </p><p>My family, for example, has issues with alcoholism. It has been necessary to give the children some information to explain what was happening with certain relatives--BUT I don't go into details, I don't excuse it, I simply state a few facts and leave it at that. I don't EVER want to hear my kids say that their lives are a certain way because so-and-so drinks. Or to view drugs or alcohol as an option because so-and-so does it.</p><p> </p><p>Do I have certain issues as a result of the alcoholism? Absolutely! And when something happens, I will just explain what happened in my life to make me behave this way and that I am trying to get past it. But again, it's a brief explanation....not an analytical session.</p><p> </p><p>If it were up to me, I would leave difficult child out of it and find an adult to work with. If not a therapist, perhaps a support group of some kind...</p><p> </p><p>--DaisyFace</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 330290, member: 6546"] K-- My worry with sharing all the family "issues" with difficult child is that he might use it as an excuse for his own behaviors. As in well, I can't help it because X runs in my family....or I get this from my grandfather, so it's just the way I am. My family, for example, has issues with alcoholism. It has been necessary to give the children some information to explain what was happening with certain relatives--BUT I don't go into details, I don't excuse it, I simply state a few facts and leave it at that. I don't EVER want to hear my kids say that their lives are a certain way because so-and-so drinks. Or to view drugs or alcohol as an option because so-and-so does it. Do I have certain issues as a result of the alcoholism? Absolutely! And when something happens, I will just explain what happened in my life to make me behave this way and that I am trying to get past it. But again, it's a brief explanation....not an analytical session. If it were up to me, I would leave difficult child out of it and find an adult to work with. If not a therapist, perhaps a support group of some kind... --DaisyFace [/QUOTE]
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