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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 330348" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>GN- I can see why that would hurt you and seem senseless. Again though, that is not the sort of thing I am referring to- although there have been people involved in difficult child's and my lives that have felt I should tell him all that stuff at his age. I think I posted in my original post that I have not been, and still am not, comfortable with that. Now at some point before he has children, I definitely will let him know that he needs to supervise and be careful with certain family members around his children. All authorities and mental health profs advise that and I would fell horrible if I didn't. But that is not what I'm referring to here anyway.</p><p></p><p>I have had the extensive therapy for the issues- still as it was pointed out, there is a lifelong recovery- or a maintenance program that sometimes needs revisiting. I see nothing wrong with teaching difficult child a simple concept about dysfunctional families- say in terms of "healthy" families and unhealthy families. That doesn't mean he will hear all the gory situations and details.</p><p></p><p>As an example, when people go to AA meetings even as a preventative measure to ward off potential relapse, they sometimes take their kids to meetings structured for children of alcoholics so they can get an understanding of things and it helps break the generational cycle.</p><p></p><p>Even the current therapist difficult child has thought I should tell difficult child more than what I plan to discuss with him. She felt it would help him understand our family and me and my decisions more. I don't want to go that far but do want to get myself on a maintenance plan, so to speak, for a while and I think difficult child and I need to discuss it.</p><p></p><p>I could really use support in this and no I don;t think it means I need to go back to extensive therapy- no more than the hypothetical person going back to AA meetings to prevent relapse needs to go back into a treatment center and put on thorazine again. I'm not saying that to be nasty- only to convey the perspective I'm trying to keep.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 330348, member: 3699"] GN- I can see why that would hurt you and seem senseless. Again though, that is not the sort of thing I am referring to- although there have been people involved in difficult child's and my lives that have felt I should tell him all that stuff at his age. I think I posted in my original post that I have not been, and still am not, comfortable with that. Now at some point before he has children, I definitely will let him know that he needs to supervise and be careful with certain family members around his children. All authorities and mental health profs advise that and I would fell horrible if I didn't. But that is not what I'm referring to here anyway. I have had the extensive therapy for the issues- still as it was pointed out, there is a lifelong recovery- or a maintenance program that sometimes needs revisiting. I see nothing wrong with teaching difficult child a simple concept about dysfunctional families- say in terms of "healthy" families and unhealthy families. That doesn't mean he will hear all the gory situations and details. As an example, when people go to AA meetings even as a preventative measure to ward off potential relapse, they sometimes take their kids to meetings structured for children of alcoholics so they can get an understanding of things and it helps break the generational cycle. Even the current therapist difficult child has thought I should tell difficult child more than what I plan to discuss with him. She felt it would help him understand our family and me and my decisions more. I don't want to go that far but do want to get myself on a maintenance plan, so to speak, for a while and I think difficult child and I need to discuss it. I could really use support in this and no I don;t think it means I need to go back to extensive therapy- no more than the hypothetical person going back to AA meetings to prevent relapse needs to go back into a treatment center and put on thorazine again. I'm not saying that to be nasty- only to convey the perspective I'm trying to keep. [/QUOTE]
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