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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 330441" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>K...I think your situation would be more closely related to my situation with my childhood upbringing and then my parenting of my kids. </p><p></p><p>This is how I dealt with what I told my kids about my mom and the abuse that happened to me when I was younger. I didnt tell them much until they were old enough to handle it. No one knew anything at your son's age. Cory knew that I was bipolar at 14 because he had received the diagnosis at 13 and I was dxd right around the same time. I shared with the family "some" of my feelings but not all. </p><p></p><p>Jamie found out about my abortion when he was 17 because we were watching a movie and he asked me about the subject. I told him my point of view on it and asked him his and then told him what had happened to me. He was very calm and understanding. We had a very deep and good discussion about relationships and how wrong moves can lead to horrible consequences. </p><p></p><p>Now Cory learned about it much later and while he doesnt agree with what I did, he loves me enough to forgive me. </p><p></p><p>None of my boys knew about the abuse my mom did to me until they were at least 20. She was dead by that time. I kept that a secret because I wanted them to have a decent relationship with her. </p><p></p><p>They found out about the rape while watching tv too. As they were ready. As the subject came up. I would feel them out on the subject. I would drop small hints like "no woman deserves to be raped no matter what." When they would agree with me and start talking about it, I finally told them...but they were late teens. </p><p></p><p>If I had a young teen girl, I might have told her earlier about the dangers that could befall a young woman to warn her but Im not sure if I would have made it personal.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 330441, member: 1514"] K...I think your situation would be more closely related to my situation with my childhood upbringing and then my parenting of my kids. This is how I dealt with what I told my kids about my mom and the abuse that happened to me when I was younger. I didnt tell them much until they were old enough to handle it. No one knew anything at your son's age. Cory knew that I was bipolar at 14 because he had received the diagnosis at 13 and I was dxd right around the same time. I shared with the family "some" of my feelings but not all. Jamie found out about my abortion when he was 17 because we were watching a movie and he asked me about the subject. I told him my point of view on it and asked him his and then told him what had happened to me. He was very calm and understanding. We had a very deep and good discussion about relationships and how wrong moves can lead to horrible consequences. Now Cory learned about it much later and while he doesnt agree with what I did, he loves me enough to forgive me. None of my boys knew about the abuse my mom did to me until they were at least 20. She was dead by that time. I kept that a secret because I wanted them to have a decent relationship with her. They found out about the rape while watching tv too. As they were ready. As the subject came up. I would feel them out on the subject. I would drop small hints like "no woman deserves to be raped no matter what." When they would agree with me and start talking about it, I finally told them...but they were late teens. If I had a young teen girl, I might have told her earlier about the dangers that could befall a young woman to warn her but Im not sure if I would have made it personal. [/QUOTE]
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