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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 330462" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>I hesitate to post because I realize you have felt in the past that I was not supportive when you needed it. My intentions are not to cause harm or undermine your self confidence. Obviously, lol, if I had all the right answers I wouldn't be living the life I am. on the other hand, you have asked for opinions as well as support so........here I go again. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>You and difficult child are a family. The dysfuntions of the <em>extended family</em> are not</p><p>relative to him so much as they are to you because those dysfunctions have caused your pain, anxiety and fear plus a sense of isolation. There are so many issues that directly relate to difficult child and his life that I see no reason for sharing concepts or details. Simply, as his Mom, you have the</p><p>right and the responsibility to set the rules in reation to contact with relatives as well as friends. He, as your son, has the responsibility to do as you say. At his age he is well aware of dysfunctions. Chances are that many of the kids he lives with have shared details of "funny uncles"</p><p>as well as extreme physical and emotional abuse. The "issues" that he</p><p>refers to in <em>your </em>life have already been acknowledged sans details.</p><p> </p><p>I'm sure the holidays were awful for you and difficult child. The good news is that</p><p>2010 is here and life should be getting better for you both soon. Hugs DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 330462, member: 35"] I hesitate to post because I realize you have felt in the past that I was not supportive when you needed it. My intentions are not to cause harm or undermine your self confidence. Obviously, lol, if I had all the right answers I wouldn't be living the life I am. on the other hand, you have asked for opinions as well as support so........here I go again. :winking: You and difficult child are a family. The dysfuntions of the [I]extended family[/I] are not relative to him so much as they are to you because those dysfunctions have caused your pain, anxiety and fear plus a sense of isolation. There are so many issues that directly relate to difficult child and his life that I see no reason for sharing concepts or details. Simply, as his Mom, you have the right and the responsibility to set the rules in reation to contact with relatives as well as friends. He, as your son, has the responsibility to do as you say. At his age he is well aware of dysfunctions. Chances are that many of the kids he lives with have shared details of "funny uncles" as well as extreme physical and emotional abuse. The "issues" that he refers to in [I]your [/I]life have already been acknowledged sans details. I'm sure the holidays were awful for you and difficult child. The good news is that 2010 is here and life should be getting better for you both soon. Hugs DDD [/QUOTE]
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