Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Our visit today (long)
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 432303" data-attributes="member: 393"><p>You've a week before your psychiatrist appointment, right, wintak? </p><p></p><p>You've all been given the needs & the should's on this thread & it's all well intentioned & given with concern & wisdom.</p><p></p><p>What are the things, the activities that are self calming to difficult child? Does difficult child love to swing, how about sand boxes? Does he love to dig? Playing video games?</p><p></p><p>I'm asking because when the tweedles were around your difficult children age I didn't care what the experts had to say because they didn't live here 24/7. I had to find ways to "manage" xyz while maintaining my sanity & my home.</p><p></p><p>My late husband & I fenced the yard, put in a huge swing set & a sand box. It helped wm, especially, with his need to move constantly. (This is the boy when at school/Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was assigned to wear a pedometer & had taken 12,000 steps by noon.) wm, even at almost 17, still needs to move constantly & now he runs 4 miles daily at school to burn off steam.</p><p></p><p>So find some way to let your difficult child burn off steam in a positive way. Does difficult child like his bath time - another self calming skill learned in my home for kt. </p><p></p><p>I put together sensory boxes for the tweedles - a box filled with rice & beans. My tweedles spent hours sorting & playing in those boxes. kt still does of late.</p><p></p><p>I swaddled the tweedles in bed each night to help them calm (helped them feel safe). I rocked & rocked both of them (wm much less because he struggled(s) with that level of emotional demands & physical closeness.</p><p></p><p>These are things that helped to some extent here while we were in the throes of getting diagnosis's, sorting out medications & therapies. May sound simplistic, but I had to do something.</p><p></p><p>If your difficult child attempts to harm your other children it's time to take him to ER or call 911 for help in transporting him. This is a line in the sand, in my humble opinion, you must draw.</p><p></p><p>It's not easy being the full time parent yet alone the full time parent to a difficult child. I'm not going to suggest you get out for coffee with a friend. I'd like to suggest a good book with a glass of wine while taking a bubble bath after your kids are in bed & sleeping.</p><p></p><p>wintak, I understand your fears, your numbness, your exhaustion. I know your frustration with the professionals who are not living this situation with your difficult child 24/7. I feel your pain, your anger, your fear, your not knowing from day to day what will happen next. It brought me to my knees more times than I care to admit (tho many here will remember).</p><p></p><p>Take care, lady.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 432303, member: 393"] You've a week before your psychiatrist appointment, right, wintak? You've all been given the needs & the should's on this thread & it's all well intentioned & given with concern & wisdom. What are the things, the activities that are self calming to difficult child? Does difficult child love to swing, how about sand boxes? Does he love to dig? Playing video games? I'm asking because when the tweedles were around your difficult children age I didn't care what the experts had to say because they didn't live here 24/7. I had to find ways to "manage" xyz while maintaining my sanity & my home. My late husband & I fenced the yard, put in a huge swing set & a sand box. It helped wm, especially, with his need to move constantly. (This is the boy when at school/Residential Treatment Center (RTC) was assigned to wear a pedometer & had taken 12,000 steps by noon.) wm, even at almost 17, still needs to move constantly & now he runs 4 miles daily at school to burn off steam. So find some way to let your difficult child burn off steam in a positive way. Does difficult child like his bath time - another self calming skill learned in my home for kt. I put together sensory boxes for the tweedles - a box filled with rice & beans. My tweedles spent hours sorting & playing in those boxes. kt still does of late. I swaddled the tweedles in bed each night to help them calm (helped them feel safe). I rocked & rocked both of them (wm much less because he struggled(s) with that level of emotional demands & physical closeness. These are things that helped to some extent here while we were in the throes of getting diagnosis's, sorting out medications & therapies. May sound simplistic, but I had to do something. If your difficult child attempts to harm your other children it's time to take him to ER or call 911 for help in transporting him. This is a line in the sand, in my humble opinion, you must draw. It's not easy being the full time parent yet alone the full time parent to a difficult child. I'm not going to suggest you get out for coffee with a friend. I'd like to suggest a good book with a glass of wine while taking a bubble bath after your kids are in bed & sleeping. wintak, I understand your fears, your numbness, your exhaustion. I know your frustration with the professionals who are not living this situation with your difficult child 24/7. I feel your pain, your anger, your fear, your not knowing from day to day what will happen next. It brought me to my knees more times than I care to admit (tho many here will remember). Take care, lady. [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
General Parenting
Our visit today (long)
Top