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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 264366" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Mstang,</p><p></p><p>I know the feeling about not wanting your difficult child to be allowed in your home when your not there. difficult child 1 has NEVER been given a key to our house and NEVER will be given one. We don't trust him either. </p><p></p><p>I've just about had it too - difficult child 1 turned 18 a little over a week ago. He believes that it is his right to be treated as an adult in my home - He blew up because he isn't allowed to remain at home (playing computer games, refusing to do anything at all to help out, destroying things that don't belong to him, possibly stealing, etc... ) when either husband or I aren't here. After his outburst, I told him calmly that if he doesn't like the rules here, he can leave whenever he wants to. He actually shut up, went to his bedroom and slammed the door. He isn't ready to give up his free meal ticket just yet... However, that day is quickly approaching!!! </p><p></p><p>You've done everything humanly possible to help your difficult child. If he refuses to help himself, it is HIS problem. HE will have to deal with the negative consequences. Think one word - DETACHMENT. (I'm hoping I'll be able to follow my own advice when difficult child 1 moves out at the end of June, beginning of July.) </p><p></p><p>I think it is perfectly reasonable to do everything you can to keep your difficult child out of your home when you're not there. It is YOUR house, you pay the bills, etc... Your difficult child has to realize that he can't treat you like carp, leave whenever he wants to, and return whenever he wants to. It is time for him to face reality - He can't keep treating you like dirt and expect you to just take it... You have a right to a calm, peaceful home!!!</p><p></p><p>by the way we don't have anything like Schwan's in our area. You're making me hungry!!! Knock it off, lol...</p><p></p><p>Update when you can. I have a feeling I could end up in your position soon<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /><img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite4" alt=":mad:" title="Mad :mad:" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":mad:" />... </p><p></p><p>Anyway, thinking of you and hoping your weekend will be uneventful!!! WFEN</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 264366, member: 3388"] Mstang, I know the feeling about not wanting your difficult child to be allowed in your home when your not there. difficult child 1 has NEVER been given a key to our house and NEVER will be given one. We don't trust him either. I've just about had it too - difficult child 1 turned 18 a little over a week ago. He believes that it is his right to be treated as an adult in my home - He blew up because he isn't allowed to remain at home (playing computer games, refusing to do anything at all to help out, destroying things that don't belong to him, possibly stealing, etc... ) when either husband or I aren't here. After his outburst, I told him calmly that if he doesn't like the rules here, he can leave whenever he wants to. He actually shut up, went to his bedroom and slammed the door. He isn't ready to give up his free meal ticket just yet... However, that day is quickly approaching!!! You've done everything humanly possible to help your difficult child. If he refuses to help himself, it is HIS problem. HE will have to deal with the negative consequences. Think one word - DETACHMENT. (I'm hoping I'll be able to follow my own advice when difficult child 1 moves out at the end of June, beginning of July.) I think it is perfectly reasonable to do everything you can to keep your difficult child out of your home when you're not there. It is YOUR house, you pay the bills, etc... Your difficult child has to realize that he can't treat you like carp, leave whenever he wants to, and return whenever he wants to. It is time for him to face reality - He can't keep treating you like dirt and expect you to just take it... You have a right to a calm, peaceful home!!! by the way we don't have anything like Schwan's in our area. You're making me hungry!!! Knock it off, lol... Update when you can. I have a feeling I could end up in your position soon:frowny::angry:... Anyway, thinking of you and hoping your weekend will be uneventful!!! WFEN [/QUOTE]
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