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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 305799" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>These are all good ideas of what steps you can take now, and if/when this occurs again.</p><p>I would also suggest you make a short list of other occassions of physical abuse, threats, destruction to property (if that's occured), offenses to the principal etc that you mentioned. Add to it every time he threatens (wether himself or others!).</p><p>If he is physical again, phone the police as mentioned and as you've done. But this time, request they place him in the cruiser while you speak privatly with the officers. Calmly hand them the list you have compiled and request they scan/read it on the spot. Then calmly tell them that this is not just a normal run of the mill moody teen who had a bad moment of being out of control. That this is a child with mental health diagnosis and a history of violence and threats of violence and threats of self harm. That you are no longer safe nor are you willing to risk your safety (or your sons). That you called the police for concrete assistance in removing him from your home and at that point you can focus on where he should go for help. Request they take him to the hospital on a psychiatric hold as a risk to himself/others. Then you can get a psychiatric on board from the hospital about not releasing home to you. Others are right. In that situation you will have the right ear to bend to get some kind of placement to help him outside the home.</p><p>Personally, I would make the list, find out options for placement so you can tell the police and the hospital what options are around for him, and the second he VERBALLY was out of control and a serious threat left his mouth, I'd quietly call the police in. Wouldn't tell him or fight with him. Just be determined to have no big scene until police arrive. </p><p>I'm so sorry you are going through this. If you can get him placed, what will happen to his young g/f? I hope she is finding some way to determine she shouldn't be putting herself in position to be controlled etc. I hope your son gets help to feel like he doesn't need to control a partner or a parent and how to walk a happier path. (((hugs))) and do whatever you need to feel comfortable and safe and peaceful in your own home. We do love our kids and have responsabilities for them at that age. But one responsability that is NOT ours as parents, is being threated with harm, controlled, manipulated or physically injured.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 305799, member: 4264"] These are all good ideas of what steps you can take now, and if/when this occurs again. I would also suggest you make a short list of other occassions of physical abuse, threats, destruction to property (if that's occured), offenses to the principal etc that you mentioned. Add to it every time he threatens (wether himself or others!). If he is physical again, phone the police as mentioned and as you've done. But this time, request they place him in the cruiser while you speak privatly with the officers. Calmly hand them the list you have compiled and request they scan/read it on the spot. Then calmly tell them that this is not just a normal run of the mill moody teen who had a bad moment of being out of control. That this is a child with mental health diagnosis and a history of violence and threats of violence and threats of self harm. That you are no longer safe nor are you willing to risk your safety (or your sons). That you called the police for concrete assistance in removing him from your home and at that point you can focus on where he should go for help. Request they take him to the hospital on a psychiatric hold as a risk to himself/others. Then you can get a psychiatric on board from the hospital about not releasing home to you. Others are right. In that situation you will have the right ear to bend to get some kind of placement to help him outside the home. Personally, I would make the list, find out options for placement so you can tell the police and the hospital what options are around for him, and the second he VERBALLY was out of control and a serious threat left his mouth, I'd quietly call the police in. Wouldn't tell him or fight with him. Just be determined to have no big scene until police arrive. I'm so sorry you are going through this. If you can get him placed, what will happen to his young g/f? I hope she is finding some way to determine she shouldn't be putting herself in position to be controlled etc. I hope your son gets help to feel like he doesn't need to control a partner or a parent and how to walk a happier path. (((hugs))) and do whatever you need to feel comfortable and safe and peaceful in your own home. We do love our kids and have responsabilities for them at that age. But one responsability that is NOT ours as parents, is being threated with harm, controlled, manipulated or physically injured. [/QUOTE]
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