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<blockquote data-quote="BackintheSaddle" data-source="post: 615686" data-attributes="member: 17503"><p>Thanks for your replies and questions...I wasn't sure how much detail to provide...he's been a 'difficult' child since at least 2nd grade and went to the same psychologist for therapy and psychiatrist for medications...he has ADHD for sure and depression (no medications for that, denies he has a problem) and in the past, was hospitalized (age 11) and diagnosed bipolar...by the time he was 15, he was hiding pills, fighting over taking them and convinced nothing was wrong with him (it was all me!-- I could add a lot more details to these years but our path to this place is very similar to others I've read here)...so I let him go off the medications for awhile (he was taking Lithium, Risperdal, and Buspar) with the thinking that while he was at home, we could see if he was right and I was wrong (he'd grown out of it?)...but high school was really tough and last year (12th grade) was very bad...he started taking a real turn for the worst and the symptoms of ODD were more and more obvious...all the things I've read on this site-- won't do chores, talks horribly to us, thinks he's justified in doing so, calls names, punches walls, etc...but he does work (had the same job for a year now-- the reason he can is because it's in sales and he's a very charming fellow when he needs to be!) and is going to a community college this fall (was a struggle each week)...after barely graduating from high school, we had a contract with him that said he could live at home under a long list of conditions, including seeing his psychiatrist at least monthly and taking anything he recommended...but his psychiatrist isn't convinced it's bipolar because of the lack of obvious mood swings...Jacob (my son) masks things with his MD but he did start taking Risperdal which works really well (for him) in controlling angry outbursts...he started going downhill in November and I made him go back sooner to see the MD and wrote out all the things I'd observed (increasing inability to control anger, higher anxiety, far less studying, etc)...he went back and MD increased medication but Jacob hasn't been taking them -- hiding pills again (on nights he got home later than we were up, I relied on his word to follow thru with that promise)...the MD thinks ODD is part of it but not sure what else other than ADHD...has referred us to a specialist with ODD kids but that was before this weekend...now that he's living at my parents, I've been trying to focus on getting thru Christmas and what to do (if anything) to help him with the next steps--- we haven't suspected drugs, he's home ALLLLLL the time so I don't know how he would be using and he's never had a sip of alcohol (I'm 99% certain)...he doesn't have the symptoms of drug abuse as much as mental illness-- or something...he grabbed me Saturday and shook me but is blaming me for 'provoking him' (I told him to come outside and help us work)...he's not the least bit remorseful for what happened, sent a nasty email today to confirm to everyone that it is all my issues, not his...tagged me '666' to make his point</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BackintheSaddle, post: 615686, member: 17503"] Thanks for your replies and questions...I wasn't sure how much detail to provide...he's been a 'difficult' child since at least 2nd grade and went to the same psychologist for therapy and psychiatrist for medications...he has ADHD for sure and depression (no medications for that, denies he has a problem) and in the past, was hospitalized (age 11) and diagnosed bipolar...by the time he was 15, he was hiding pills, fighting over taking them and convinced nothing was wrong with him (it was all me!-- I could add a lot more details to these years but our path to this place is very similar to others I've read here)...so I let him go off the medications for awhile (he was taking Lithium, Risperdal, and Buspar) with the thinking that while he was at home, we could see if he was right and I was wrong (he'd grown out of it?)...but high school was really tough and last year (12th grade) was very bad...he started taking a real turn for the worst and the symptoms of ODD were more and more obvious...all the things I've read on this site-- won't do chores, talks horribly to us, thinks he's justified in doing so, calls names, punches walls, etc...but he does work (had the same job for a year now-- the reason he can is because it's in sales and he's a very charming fellow when he needs to be!) and is going to a community college this fall (was a struggle each week)...after barely graduating from high school, we had a contract with him that said he could live at home under a long list of conditions, including seeing his psychiatrist at least monthly and taking anything he recommended...but his psychiatrist isn't convinced it's bipolar because of the lack of obvious mood swings...Jacob (my son) masks things with his MD but he did start taking Risperdal which works really well (for him) in controlling angry outbursts...he started going downhill in November and I made him go back sooner to see the MD and wrote out all the things I'd observed (increasing inability to control anger, higher anxiety, far less studying, etc)...he went back and MD increased medication but Jacob hasn't been taking them -- hiding pills again (on nights he got home later than we were up, I relied on his word to follow thru with that promise)...the MD thinks ODD is part of it but not sure what else other than ADHD...has referred us to a specialist with ODD kids but that was before this weekend...now that he's living at my parents, I've been trying to focus on getting thru Christmas and what to do (if anything) to help him with the next steps--- we haven't suspected drugs, he's home ALLLLLL the time so I don't know how he would be using and he's never had a sip of alcohol (I'm 99% certain)...he doesn't have the symptoms of drug abuse as much as mental illness-- or something...he grabbed me Saturday and shook me but is blaming me for 'provoking him' (I told him to come outside and help us work)...he's not the least bit remorseful for what happened, sent a nasty email today to confirm to everyone that it is all my issues, not his...tagged me '666' to make his point [/QUOTE]
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