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Parents turned on me after I finally kicked out 19yo son
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 615687" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I would search his room, including under his mattress, in his drawers, in bhis closets, anywhere to see maybe signs that he is abusing drugs. Some adult kids abuse prescription and OTC drugs. in my opinion he IS acting like he is taking drugs. ODD is a simplistic diagnosis and rarely given to kids beyond very young ages. At any rate, since he is of legal age, it really doesn't matter if he is mentally ill or using drugs or both. He is responsible for his health and needs to be safe and he needs to take serious control of his problems, including taking his medications. You can not make him stable. Only he can do that. In fact, you can't do one thing for him. You can only take care of one person...yourself. You have no control over your son. His choices are things he owns. None of us can change anyone but ourselves.</p><p></p><p>A good start would be for you to realize that you are every bit as important a person as your son and that you have a right to a happy, safe, peaceful and fun life with those who treat you well. This is in spite of your son's self-destruction and anger and your parent's being unreasonable. </p><p></p><p>I would recommend going with your husband to a NAMI meeting (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill) to meet other parents who cope with adult children who have these problems and to learn how to handle them.</p><p></p><p>I have a book recommendation too! Pick up "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beatty. You may see yourself in her wise words.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 615687, member: 1550"] I would search his room, including under his mattress, in his drawers, in bhis closets, anywhere to see maybe signs that he is abusing drugs. Some adult kids abuse prescription and OTC drugs. in my opinion he IS acting like he is taking drugs. ODD is a simplistic diagnosis and rarely given to kids beyond very young ages. At any rate, since he is of legal age, it really doesn't matter if he is mentally ill or using drugs or both. He is responsible for his health and needs to be safe and he needs to take serious control of his problems, including taking his medications. You can not make him stable. Only he can do that. In fact, you can't do one thing for him. You can only take care of one person...yourself. You have no control over your son. His choices are things he owns. None of us can change anyone but ourselves. A good start would be for you to realize that you are every bit as important a person as your son and that you have a right to a happy, safe, peaceful and fun life with those who treat you well. This is in spite of your son's self-destruction and anger and your parent's being unreasonable. I would recommend going with your husband to a NAMI meeting (National Alliance for the Mentally Ill) to meet other parents who cope with adult children who have these problems and to learn how to handle them. I have a book recommendation too! Pick up "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beatty. You may see yourself in her wise words. [/QUOTE]
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