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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 538986" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>Hmmmm lot to think about. If he wrote that in his notebook but didn't share it with group does that mean it isn't true or just that he isn't ready to share.</p><p></p><p>I read difficult child's notebooks too when she left them laying around. That's how I found a picture another person drew and gave her of a spoon, lighter and needle and a girl holding it ready to shoot up. It alarmed me because I didn't know if she drew it or someone else did. It didn't matter, to me it showed me she wasn't thinking sober. I also read in her notebook that she said she was raped at age 14 and that was the first time she had sex and that was why she began drinking and smoking pot because she was so ashamed. That was just a lie. The boy she said raped her was our neighbor boy who was also 14 and she began hanging with him and smoking pot and drinking and they had sex, no force involved and he introduced her to all his pot friends who helped her begin her life as an addict. But I think she thought she didn't have a bad enough "story" like the others in rehab so she had to make one up.</p><p></p><p>I'm sure it concerns you that this story has come up more than once now. If it was true it would explain some of his anger and acting out. If he's hiding something that big it takes a lot of energy. To go through the trouble of getting pictures tells you something, just not sure what. If he didn't intend anyone to find the pics why would he that? On the other hand if this is all a lie it shows he is deeply troubled and trying to manipulate something.</p><p></p><p>You are right to pull back and recognize he has a lot of work to do and it cannot involve you. This is his journey to make and he will either sink or swim.</p><p></p><p>AG what I hoped so much when difficult child was in rehab and when she came out was that we could build up trust again. What I found out was that trust takes a very very long time to rebuild and especially with addicts it does not come easily if ever. I had to learn to protect my heart from that, being hurt over and oevr again because I thought things were different only to learn they were the same, with a slightly different cover.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 538986, member: 59"] Hmmmm lot to think about. If he wrote that in his notebook but didn't share it with group does that mean it isn't true or just that he isn't ready to share. I read difficult child's notebooks too when she left them laying around. That's how I found a picture another person drew and gave her of a spoon, lighter and needle and a girl holding it ready to shoot up. It alarmed me because I didn't know if she drew it or someone else did. It didn't matter, to me it showed me she wasn't thinking sober. I also read in her notebook that she said she was raped at age 14 and that was the first time she had sex and that was why she began drinking and smoking pot because she was so ashamed. That was just a lie. The boy she said raped her was our neighbor boy who was also 14 and she began hanging with him and smoking pot and drinking and they had sex, no force involved and he introduced her to all his pot friends who helped her begin her life as an addict. But I think she thought she didn't have a bad enough "story" like the others in rehab so she had to make one up. I'm sure it concerns you that this story has come up more than once now. If it was true it would explain some of his anger and acting out. If he's hiding something that big it takes a lot of energy. To go through the trouble of getting pictures tells you something, just not sure what. If he didn't intend anyone to find the pics why would he that? On the other hand if this is all a lie it shows he is deeply troubled and trying to manipulate something. You are right to pull back and recognize he has a lot of work to do and it cannot involve you. This is his journey to make and he will either sink or swim. AG what I hoped so much when difficult child was in rehab and when she came out was that we could build up trust again. What I found out was that trust takes a very very long time to rebuild and especially with addicts it does not come easily if ever. I had to learn to protect my heart from that, being hurt over and oevr again because I thought things were different only to learn they were the same, with a slightly different cover. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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